In order to Live Well, you must first learn to Die Well. A special Father's Day Post by James Hodges

Hello All,

This is James Hodges. I created for Jennifer and traditionally have left it up to her to provide content. We both have decided that once a year, around Father's Day, I will do a post on MetamorFit.

I'm definitely not a chick or fitness blogger. My posts will never have advertising in them. I'm rather Introverted and wired for more substance than that. My posts will be about something that touches my own heart and soul and hopefully at least one other person that reads it.

I have Viking ancestry. I also have Cherokee, Scottish, and English ancestry. In genetics, there is always a dominant trait. In searching myself I would like to think that my Viking ancestry is the dominant one but I know there is definitely some flavor mixed in there from all the rest of my noble ancestors.

Vikings gained a reputation in the middle ages for having no fear of death in battle. They yearned to die while doing something noble that brought honor to themselves and their family. I could go on and on telling you about Vikings, but that's not the point of this post. No fear of death what I want you to remember the most about the Vikings.

I'm not looking forward to the pain, I'll go into shock just like anyone else, but death at a high level doesn't scare me at all. I have a sincere morbid curiosity about it, truly looking forward to it, but happy to procrastinate it as long as possible as it's the one thing in life we are all guaranteed to have one day. I would never give up my life without a fight, but I would give it up for the people I love without hesitation as I consider that dying well.

There is one aspect about death that sends shivers down my spine, it's that I might wake up somewhere afterwards. When my time comes I really want to just die, just end, be gone for good and experience Viking-Nirvana. I don't want to spend eternity talking about the weather, football, politics or fighting in Valhalla. If there was good music in heaven, and a way to create my own, then maybe it wouldn't be that bad. Anything else would be a form of hell for me. Either way I don't believe I have a choice in the matter or a way to change things through my actions here on earth so I choose not to dwell, unless I am creating a website or post about dying well.

I personally believe that heaven and hell is right here on Earth. We are all gods and create our own existence through our own perception of the universe around us. I can make my time here a hell, worked pretty hard at that for a while, but now I choose to make this world resemble heaven. Since I made this conscious choice, my perception of life has gotten much better. I constantly see the world changing for the better and not for the worst. 

Every day that I wake up I think about the horrible car accidents which I have seen while driving to work on the Veteran's Expressway. I realize that I may not be back home that evening. Before I leave for the day I kiss my kids, give them a hug, and I tell them that I love them. I make sure that the last memory they have of me is a good one. I try not to yell at them when they perturb me, but I am a human animal, I fail a lot. Hopefully they will remember the good things about me and not just the bad.

As you can probably guess from my dark topic, I've been doing a lot of thinking about death lately. I'm getting middle aged now and I see my death on the horizon. I have some things I'd like to do before it happens, my bucket list. This list contains some things I wish to share with the world in the hopes it will become a better place. Since I am a web developer, my medium for this is a new website I am working on. I don't wish to share the URL at this time, but I'll have Jen announce it when I make more progress.

Life, Death and Eternity is what my new website will be about. It will be non-denominational. An online "church" of sorts to go and prepare for death while simultaneously celebrating life. It won't be for everyone, but I'm hoping someone out there will have an interest in doing this type of thing online. If just one person likes it, I'm cool with that.

I've been searching for some inspiration for content. I found some yesterday that I wanted to share here in my Father's Day post...


In order to Live Well, we must first learn to Die Well:


As we never really know when our lives will end:  


Comments (2) -

  • I look forward to seeing the url for your new site. I agree wholeheartedly with your take on living this life as though it is the only one. I strive to do the same. Good luck on your journey!
  • Thought provoking post. Sounds like an interesting website that you're starting up. And Happy Father's Day wishes to you
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