My Big Fat Revenge: The Fat Friend, PLUS a HUGE GIVEAWAY

by jennifer22. October 2013 00:35

The following post is sponsored by FitFluential LLC on behalf of the Oxygen Network.

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Thankfully I have had always had a supportive husband who never compared my weight, or looks with other women that we would see out and about. I am extremely fortunate that my husband married me for the woman he saw inside, and not on the outside. His support means the world to me.

Neesha

Have you ever been the fat friend? Or do you have a friend that is your "fat friend?" I've been the fat friend. For years I was the fat friend. I was always the girl that made the other girls look skinny, and pretty. Thankfully my friends never made me feel bad about being the fat friend. I had amazing college roommates who were (and are!!) beautiful, smart and kind. And most all of the friends I made during the "mommy playgroup" phase I was in NEVER made me feel insecure about being fat. Never. And I love those ladies for sticking by me through thick and thin (no pun intended!!)

Alex

Meet the ladies:

NEESHA seeks revenge on her ex-fiance, who picked apart women in public, half her size, to make her feel self-conscious about her own weight.

ALEXANDRA moves past the pain of having her ex-roommate say she wasn’t “on her level” and she was the “fat friend” who was too heavy to be seen with.

We are doing an amazing giveaway with $500 in prizes for one lucky winner…you’re going to want to win this!  

One winner will receive the following ($500 value).

  • (1) $150 Whole Foods Gift card
  • (1) Fitbit ($100 value)
  • (1) $100 AMEX
  • (1) $150 Lulu Lemon GiftCard

The giveaway is open to US residents only and will be selected randomly from the comments. Giveaway open until October 28th. Winner will be announced in my My Big Fat Revenge finale post on October 29th.

So, do you want to win this $500 prize pack? It's easy!! Just leave me a comment telling me about a time you've felt discouraged while trying to reach the goal of becoming a better you.

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Jenny

Comments (189) -

Jessica
Jessica
10/22/2013 12:59:06 AM #

I would love to win this because I am trying to become the best, healthiest, and fittest me and as a college student I could always use some extra money to help fulfill my goals Smile I would love to get some new workout gear!!

Ashley Silverthorn
Ashley Silverthorn
10/22/2013 1:05:02 AM #

I have been overweight my whole life, and no matter what I did- I was always over 200 lbs. Like your husband mine has always been been supportive, its the rest of the world that isn't so so accepting.  Including myself. I have been hooked on this show, and those ladies are so inspirational.

Kathryn Vasquez
Kathryn Vasquez
10/22/2013 1:10:15 AM #

I have always been overweight, one of my first memories of being made fun of was in 5th grade. My teacher always used to say, "it's not over until the fat lady sings." And one boy said, "sing Kathryn, sing." I didn't how little words could make you feel so horrible until that moment, from then on I have been self conscious about my weight. Years later I am now a wife and a mother of two beautiful boys, I am still battling with my weight and my mind but I am on the road to be as healthy as ever for my two boys. I am also determined to teach them that words hurt more than they realize and I want to make sure they know never to cut someone down like that boy Jimmy did in my 5th grade class.

Nina Skol
Nina Skol
10/22/2013 1:19:29 AM #

After losing 60+ pounds and starting training to run my first half marathon, while still overweight, I shared with a group of women that I was a runner.  The looks of disbelief that I saw on these women's faces was overwhelming.  Just because I'm overweight doesn't mean that I don't exercise.  I have since completed my first half marathon in 2:58 and am training for my next one.

I also had the unfortunate experience of dating a man who expressly told me "I can never really develop feelings for you because you're overweight and obviously don't want to change."  He couldn't have been more wrong and now I have the love and support of a much better man than he was or ever will be.

Tara
Tara
10/22/2013 1:23:01 AM #

REVENGE:  I remember my toughest moments trying to lose my baby weight and on to my personnel goal was when I hit a wall. The weight just stopped coming off, but I still wanted to lose 20 more pounds. After a few weeks of adjusting things myself, my weight watchers leader and I sat down and mixed things up. We found I wasn't allowing myself the extra points. We found I needed to mix up my exercise program. I just needed tweeting so my body didn't know what to do. It worked. And I found myself at my lifetime goal just a few months later!  I would love some new workout gear, I believe looking and feeling good helps motivate me at the gym ;)  

Rachel
Rachel
10/22/2013 1:23:45 AM #

I lost my step father a year and a half ago and it shattered my world. He was truly my second father. I was pregnant with my second child and heavier than I have ever been. I lost him to something he could have prevented with proper diet and exercise. Unfortunately he always had the mindset that 'there's a pill for it'. Because of that, I now have two sons without their grandpa and it hurts. Often I feel discouraged when I look in the mirror and see the flabby belly, see all the stretch marks and scars. I love my body for what it has done for me, but sometimes seeing how unhealthy it is, I lose my strength. I have a supportive husband who loves me as is, and I know to my two young toddlers, I am perfect as is. Whenever I get discouraged and think that I can't go on with this, I think of my boys and remember how it felt to lose a parent and how much I don't want them to go through that. I don't want them to feel the sadness and hurt and pain from losing a parent to something that could have been avoided with diet and exercise. I will not let them down! I am a stay at home mom, a single income family. Money is often tight, and getting a chance to get something that will help me (and others as I always share) relieve some financial burden would help immensely.

Thank you for doing this giveaway!

Tara
Tara
10/22/2013 1:25:56 AM #

Oops!!!  RELEVANT!!

Andi
Andi
10/22/2013 1:30:19 AM #

I was diagnosed in 2005 with type 2 diabetes. I went on a hard core restrictive diet and lost 40 lbs in 4 months. After one particularly big week of losses, my doctor said I was losing too quickly and not in a healthy way. I didn't KNOW any other way. As soon as I lessened the restrictions, I stopped losing and gave up. It was the most discouraged I've ever been about my weight. I didn't, couldn't, try again until 2012.

Trisha
Trisha
10/22/2013 1:37:54 AM #

I joined ww about 6 years ago. I really wanted a baby and at my weight of 355 my husband was not willing to make a trade.  (a baby for my life).  So I was determined to lose weight and then get pregnant.  I lost 110 lbs in one year and was so excited about my new body and was on my way to goal.  We the moved back to ca and into my mother in laws house.  It was not an option to have a baby there.  So I lost my goal.  I slowly gained every pound back.  I was sad, depresses and beyond discouraged.  I got up to 358 and decided to save my life but this time for real.  Not for a baby not for anyone for me.  So I can live the life God has for me.  I rejoined ww 2 months ago and I am down 30 lbs so far!  Its different this time.  I am excited and ready to go!  Smile  this change is forever!

DisneyBride
DisneyBride
10/22/2013 1:38:31 AM #

Most of my life I was the petite and curvy pretty girl, but for the past few years I've been the fat lady. Over a year ago, I was about to marry the most wonderful man in the world in the wedding of my dreams.  But I needed a gown.  The first shop I went to, I was told by a very young, very skinny salesgirl that I could not wear white, nor could I have a sweetheart cut, or a full skirt, or strapless, or beading,  or .... any of the things that I wanted.  She took a phone call on her mobile in the middle of talking to me.  I just walked out in disbelief.  A few months later, I made an appointment at a different shop, and I took my future mother in law for support. This time I found my dream dress and have felt like a princess every day since my wedding day.

Trisha
Trisha
10/22/2013 1:39:59 AM #

I joined ww about 6 years ago. I really wanted a baby and at my weight of 355 my husband was not willing to make a trade.  (a baby for my life).  So I was determined to lose weight and then get pregnant.  I lost 110 lbs in one year and was so excited about my new body and was on my way to goal.  We the moved back to ca and into my mother in laws house.  It was not an option to have a baby there.  So I lost my goal.  I slowly gained every pound back.  I was sad, depresses and beyond discouraged.  I got up to 358 and decided to save my life but this time for real.  Not for a baby not for anyone for me.  So I can live the life God has for me.  I rejoined ww 2 months ago and I am down 30 lbs so far!  Its different this time.  I am excited and ready to go!  Smile  this change is forever!

Trisha
Trisha
10/22/2013 1:41:03 AM #

I joined ww about 6 years ago. I really wanted a baby and at my weight of 355 my husband was not willing to make a trade.  (a baby for my life).  So I was determined to lose weight and then get pregnant.  I lost 110 lbs in one year and was so excited about my new body and was on my way to goal.  We the moved back to ca and into my mother in laws house.  It was not an option to have a baby there.  So I lost my goal.  I slowly gained every pound back.  I was sad, depresses and beyond discouraged.  I got up to 358 and decided to save my life but this time for real.  Not for a baby not for anyone for me.  So I can live the life God has for me.  I rejoined ww 2 months ago and I am down 30 lbs so far!  Its different this time.  I am excited and ready to go!  Smile  this change is forever!

Julie Donahue
Julie Donahue
10/22/2013 1:43:27 AM #

I've been on the journey (this time) since the first of the year.  I started out strong, and I've lost about 60 pounds. I AM proud of myself, and I DO celebrate my success.  But some days, when I look in the mirror, I don't see how far I've come. Instead I see how far I have to go.  I knew when I started that this wasn't a short term diet, but a life time decision.  But some days it is just hard...

Alyssa
Alyssa
10/22/2013 2:02:05 AM #

Earlier this year, after years of saving, my husband and I took off on a bucket list trip to Thailand. I had just graduated with my MA and was in great need of relaxing among amazing sights and life-changing experiences. I had been dieting and exercising like crazy before the trip and despite losing some weight, I still went on the trip as an obese woman. We hadn’t been in Bangkok for five hours before a man asked when I’d have the baby. I told him “I’m not pregnant, just fat.” He laughed heartily and changed the subject. I was wearing a billowy dress, so I shook it off, embarrassed, thinking my flowy maxi dress was maybe not a good choice. Several hours later, we were browsing the night market and I asked if a pair of sandals came in my size. The vendor looked me up and down and said, “No, you too big…big all over.” To prove his point he held his hands out wide, emphasizing the expanse of my hips.

The next day we took an elephant riding expedition. I was already nervous about this excursion, not knowing if my weight would be an issue. Our excitement mounted as we chugged along a dusty path in an ox cart towards the platform where our elephant waited.

As we climbed atop the Howdah, a wooden seat on the elephant’s back, the driver turned around and said “Ohhhhh my Buddha, very big body!!! Oooof!” My self esteem shattered once again but I swallowed back the knot in my throat and tried to enjoy the majestic mountains and the unreal scenery around us. I mean, c’mon- I was riding an elephant in Thailand!

Eventually, our elephant lumbered into a river, and the elephant mahout (driver) on the elephant behind us took his hook and started to poke at my back. He was laughing as he poked at me, and said “Big!” I said, trying to just go along with it to get it over with, “Yes, big like elephant.” His reply was “Elephant not big, you big!”

I sat there in shock, completely taken out of my comfort zone. As I sat there I became furious, and humiliated. I may be obese, I may be big, but I am not an animal. I am a person and I do not deserve to be prodded at with a hook for the sake of a cheap laugh.

We got off the elephants and I tried to keep choking back my tears. As we stood in line for our lunch buffet (guess what? I wasn’t hungry), the great dam I had been holding back broke through, and my eyes unleashed like the river we had just been riding. I went off to the bathroom, where I sat in a smelly, dark stall with no toilet paper, sniffling, wishing for my hotel room, my bed, my mom, my cat. I couldn't deny the things he said. When you’re fat, you can’t hide. Your flaw is exposed and you can’t tuck it away out of sight.

Sadly, my day at the elephant camp was ruined afterwards, and many of the resulting days of my vacation were steeped in anxiety about my size. This story is always a hard one to tell, but it's so important for me to tell, too. You really truly never know what kind of battle people are fighting so it is so important to be kind. Since this trip, I have been diagnosed with both PCOS and hypothyroidism, two gigantic factors in obesity and struggles with weight loss. While this was an extremely hurtful thing to go through, I can thank that Thai man today for giving me new courage and ammunition to never, ever give up. I will lose this weight!

Elizabeth Flores
Elizabeth Flores
10/22/2013 2:32:36 AM #

I don't have a weight loss story.  I am on the flip side of the transformation story.  Im the girl that gets  comment on how lucky and blessed I am to be so thin.  What the people making those comments don't understand is that Skinny isn't and shouldn't be enough.  I often feel like giving up on my quest to be faster and stronger because I sometimes feel like I don't have anything to contribute by sharing my active life but I always come back to the main reason I do this.  To me Living a fit & healthy lifestyle is about what it has given me on the inside....confidence, strength, humility, happiness, and self love.  To give up the lifestyle is to give up these new found qualities in me.

Carolyn Gilmore
Carolyn Gilmore
10/22/2013 3:08:32 AM #

Do I get discouraged on my journey? Oh yeah I do! For me it has only been the  43 years of my life being the "fat friend". My journey to taking action for a healthier me official began only 4 months ago. Every day I worry that I am going to fail myself and give up again. The difference this time is that I am in for the long haul and have crossed paths with some AMAZING people who have walked in my shoes and succeeded. It is MY time to do this, the stage has been set, my life is full of supporting friends, I am going to get the lifetime achievement award of a healthier me. I am going to pay it forward just as someone did for me back in May 2013. "I can't " is no longer ruling my life...when I get discouraged, I replace the "I can'ts" with. "JENNY DID and SO CAN I!"

Laura
Laura
10/22/2013 5:09:26 AM #

I've always been overweight, but after having my 2 kids I'm taking it to the next level of fit. I'm training to run a marathon and doing p90x for strength. Even though I've seen some very good results, I have a long way to go and would love the chance to truly live a healthy life!!

Annalisa Murden
Annalisa Murden
10/22/2013 5:41:10 AM #

I have been overweight my entire life. I was always picked on in school. My "friends" only wanted to be around me at their convenience. I was married to a man who claimed to love me for who I was, but constantly put me down about my weight and called me horrible names. That was the lowest point in my life. At that point I weighed 350 lbs...I tried to lose weight, and was successful losing 80 lbs. Then my mom passed away and I gained every ounce of it back. I decided almost 3 years ago I needed to get healthy for my children and lost 130 lbs. Unfortunately I am discouraged now b/c I cannot get out of the 220s. No matter what I do, how hard I work out...not a budge. This would totally give me a renewed invigoration about trying to get the weight off. You all are awesome!!

Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine
Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine
10/22/2013 6:10:07 AM #

I am still feeling discouraged by the fact that I need to gain weight! It is so hard, but I am still trying everyday to fuel properly and continue my weight training to build muscle as well.

Cristina
Cristina
10/22/2013 7:04:01 AM #

In my journey to health there has been peaks and valleys. A lot of it has to do with external validation of a process that is going on within me.  I get discouraged if I am on a roll and then one thing goes wrong.  I have a hard time seeing setbacks as a natural process and its hard to pick myself up again.  But I heard someone say an optimist is someone who looks at a step backward not as a failure but as dancing the cha- cha.  Working on it.

Jill
Jill
10/22/2013 7:14:23 AM #

My story may not be your typical one bc it's on the other side of the spectrum but I think it's just as important. I had an eating disorder for many years and starved myself in an attempt to have the 'perfect' body. It took many years for me to change the way I saw myself and realize that what I was doing was not healthy. Getting back to a healthy weight by eating nutritious foods was a struggle but years later I finally am healthy and fit in a very natural way. I now enjoy running, biking, swimming and many other activities bc I know how strong they make my body, not because of how many calories they burn. I hope you can see how this other side of the weight spectrum is just as dangerous and an important story to tell. Thank you so much for letting me share!

A time I felt discouraged? How about now? No matter how hard I try goals have been elusive and it's not for a lack of trying. I know life happens and we can't control everything. Reading about so many goals accomplished and PRs is discouraging right now. Why do I keep failing to accomplish my goals? Ugh!

Paula Hartson
Paula Hartson
10/22/2013 7:20:20 AM #

There are so many times when I was discouraged. Most recently though was a time that both my husband and I were eating healthier and exercising. I was training to run a marathon though. I was working out five to six times a week. Watching my calories and eating tons of fruits and veggies. He was casual about it. He would go to the gym maybe two or three times a week. He was consistently losing weight EVERY DAY. meanwhile I hit a roadblock and was gaining weight back. I felt miserable. I am fortunate enough to have a husband that loves me no matter what I look like though. He encouraged me to keep going. I realized that we are just built differently and I couldn't focus on what anyone else was doing. I had to only focus on me.

Janice
Janice
10/22/2013 7:21:01 AM #

I have been battling my weight my whole adult life. I was down 30 lbs. and halfway to my goal weight. I am stuck at a plateau and need to jump start my finess and healthy eating again. It's discouraging, but I am the one who needs to make the commitment.

flower
flower
10/22/2013 7:26:01 AM #

Discouraged?  In high school, I had a track coach who told me some women are runners, some women marry runners.  You should start picking out a husband because you can't run.  Nice, huh?  Every time I run a race, I think about that jerk coach and it only makes it better when I PR or place.  Oh, and by the way, my husband doesn't run ;)

Kristin Powell
Kristin Powell
10/22/2013 7:32:44 AM #

After having my son 9 years ago, was when I started putting on the weight. I started having some problems and finally decided to go the doctor. This was roughly 5 years ago. I was diagnosed with PCOS. The doctor I was seeing literally told me it's going to be next to impossible for you to lose any weight. She didn't bother giving me any tips to at least control it or any kind of help. I was discouraged that I didn't even try, I ended up putting a lot more weight on. However, 2 years ago a friend gave me a months pass to her gym and that was the end. I started a membership there, starting eating better and now have lost 50 pounds. Having someone who is supposed to be there to help but instead tells you there's no hope was an awful feeling. I still have a little ways to go but thank goodness I have a loving family supporting me all the way!! Smile

Trina Thome
Trina Thome
10/22/2013 7:54:41 AM #

I have been feeling discouraged for the past few months.  I started my journey on Feb 1 2012, I entered a Thinner Takes All contest through the local paper and gym.  It is changed my life more than I can ever tell you. Not only have I lost 120ish pounds but as I am about to turn 50 I am in better shape than I was at 20. So why I am discouraged? I haven't lost a single pound in the last 6 months. I am continuing to eat healthy and I am trying to step it up in the gym, so I hope my efforts will be rewarded and I can break through this plateau. I am grateful for how far I have come but I want to reach my goal before my 50th in April.

Dana Squires
Dana Squires
10/22/2013 7:59:20 AM #

Recently meaning in last few months I felt discouraged when I asked my hubby if he thought I could run a half marathon. He said wow you know how far that is, and you dont run. Well I'm in my last few weeks of training for my first half marathon so when I cross that finish line I will have proved not only to myself but everyone else who thought I couldn't.

Sarah Franks
Sarah Franks
10/22/2013 8:04:21 AM #

I feel like I cycle through ups and downs constantly. A recent low point for me was doing The Color Run with some other moms and feeling like the one who slowed everyone down, even though I've been running for over 6 months while some of them didn't really train at all. Definitely made me feel like the "fat friend" though they were very kind & supportive.

But I just keep moving. I didn't time my run, but I know I made better time than I could have 6 months ago! So I just keep my eyes on how far I've come & stop comparing myself to others!

Renee
Renee
10/22/2013 8:05:45 AM #

Ugh I had the worst experience I've ever felt being discouraged this spring. I joined a new pretend "crossfit" gym and told the manager I was a blogger. After being a down right ass to me he then felt it was ok to tell me I was 20 pounds over weight and couldn't even do a push up, who would read my blog. I cried,  and cried A LOT he said said other awful things as well but I knew right in that moment I couldn't let him win. He was a jerk and people like him should NOT be in the health and fitness community. I made his cruel words my motivation, I completed my first P90X. I can even do MANY pushups! Journey's to health and fitness are different for everyone how dare one jerk make me feel bad for trying to accomplish my goals.

Running Betty
Running Betty
10/22/2013 8:08:17 AM #

I feel discouraged pretty much one week of every month when I'm pudgier and hormonal, but the hardest time was after my 2nd daughter was born. You know how it is, Jenny, to have babies back to back. And I did that with little family support and 8 wks later moved 1000 miles away from home to a city where I knew no one. I finally made a deal with myself - it took 9 months to gain the weight, I'll wait 9 months after she is born before letting it get to me. We moved, I got a new job, I couldn't afford bigger clothes for work, so I wore the same loose things over and over for a few months, and when I hit that 9 month mark I started really watching my food intake and also started the Tae Bo video at home. And I did that for a year. My clothes all fit again. I treated myself to a new tank top from Target. My aunt came to visit me and asked me how I lost the weight, and I said, "I dieted and did the same workout video for a year!" Brian heard that and got me 2 more workout videos. One was MTV and super upbeat with catchy music. It had a cardio section and a weight section, so we got 5 lb hand weights. I didn't begin to LOVE working out again, like I did when I danced in my youth & teens) until we finally joined the YMCA when the kids were about 3/4. Then we had a child care room for them, every possible bit of workout equipment for us, and my mom got me 3 new outfits for my birthday. It all came together... slowly but surely...

Jen
Jen
10/22/2013 8:21:14 AM #

I find myself feeling discouraged when I've been seeing great progress and then I hit a point where the progress just stops. I try not to let myself feel discouraged for long and and know that all I need to do is switch it up a little, because my body has just gotten to comfortable in the current routine.

Danielle @ It's A Harleyyy Life
Danielle @ It's A Harleyyy Life
10/22/2013 8:22:23 AM #

When I was trying to lose my freshman 20 and it just wouldn't come off!

Liz Lynch
Liz Lynch
10/22/2013 8:24:27 AM #

I think it's a daily struggle to make the right choices. Feeling guilt over food choices and trying to stay on track. I am trying my best to do something active daily and make the right choices but sometimes I lose the ongoing battle and it's discouraging. I have to keep my head up and keep going though. No excuses...

Lydia
Lydia
10/22/2013 8:31:31 AM #

Until recently, I was constantly discouraged with my weight.  It seemed like no matter what I did, I was just spinning my wheels and never truly making an progress.  And if I did, I yoyo'd all over the place with it - back and forth constantly.  It wasn't until I started training for my first triathlon that I felt I started making positive strides.  And in the past two years with marathon training and of course Crossfit, I feel like I have been able to drop the discouraging attitude and make amazing changes in my life.  Sure, there are still times I feel discouraged about something - but it's not a constant presence in my life anymore.  I have also wanted to quit drinking for years and have been discourage that I felt I never could succeed at that and I am happy to say that I finally have! Awesome giveaway too - it was would EPIC to win!

adina
adina
10/22/2013 8:33:00 AM #

Most of my life has been a struggle with weight.  While my husband and I were still in the dating phase, I managed to balloon up to 230 lbs.  I hated how I felt and looked and the fact that they never had cute clothes for big girls.  Seven years ago, I made the commit to be a healthier happier me.  I have since dropped and kept off 90 lbs.  However, I still struggle with my diet on occasion.  I LOVE sweets and there are times that I fall off the wagon, but I always manage to get back on track!

Bridget Walker
Bridget Walker
10/22/2013 9:01:27 AM #

Its silly, but I started running this past spring and was feeling really good about it...certain extended family members were basically mocking me about it that I was too big to run, or that I wasn't a "real" runner....a few months later I found out these same people who were making fun of me were starting to run too and plan to run a marathon in the spring....
very discouraging that we caouldn't just all be supportive of each other Frown especially family. But I will continue to put on my running shoes for ME, and now worry about THEM ;)

melissa witte
melissa witte
10/22/2013 9:02:41 AM #

OMG awesome prize...so could use this right now.  I have been on my journey for a little over a year....right now is my struggle time...going/up/down/no motivation.  A few things in life bringing me down after I've done so much for me....

Amy Lauren Scott
Amy Lauren Scott
10/22/2013 9:04:06 AM #

I felt discouraged when training for my marathon. Several people told me I wasn't ready (I'd been running for 3 years, but anyway). One guy actually told me it would wreck my body and I shouldn't attempt it until I was running 50+ mile weeks consistently. It was tough but I kept training and I did it, and I had a pretty respectable time too.

Thanks for hosting this giveaway!

Val
Val
10/22/2013 9:08:22 AM #

Always a struggle to keep my eating in check - hoping one day to make sense of it all and find out how! Smile Exercise -- I can do -- food, I love -- and have to consume daily -- making the right choices is where I go wrong!  UGH!  

Pam Gordon
Pam Gordon
10/22/2013 9:08:53 AM #

I get discouraged when something causes me to get off track with my fitness and I have trouble getting motivated to start again. That is where I am right now, and I am trying really hard to get back on track this week.

Kristen
Kristen
10/22/2013 9:19:06 AM #

Right now I'm pretty discouraged. I started off the year great, managed to keep focused and on track through about half of the summer. But since then I've totally been slipping. I'm not entirely back to where I was last year, but it's pretty close.  Ugh.

Rebecca Goodman-Sudik
Rebecca Goodman-Sudik
10/22/2013 9:22:43 AM #

I felt discouraged in my challenge to become the better me when I had quit drugs and gained a bunch of weight due to not using anymore and yknow, actually eating. I was approx 40 pounds heavier than I am now, and I still have about 15 to go. I felt discouraged because I didn't know how to handle the weight gain in a healthy way, so I started walking to clear my head and walking turned into running.

Aimee Price
Aimee Price
10/22/2013 9:23:15 AM #

It frustrates me when a brand new runner pulls a sub 30 minute 5k! I've been running for over 2 years and am not close! I know we aren't supposed to compare ourselves to others, but it's so defeating! It's like why bother?

Anne
Anne
10/22/2013 9:25:48 AM #

I have always had body image issues so it's very discouraging at times when it takes so long to see changes.  One of my first attempts I was going to the gym every night, working with a personal trainer, carefully tracking everything I was eating and still losing no weight, no inches, not seeing any results. Finally one day when I was riding on the stationary bike after being weighed and measured and still seeing nothing (after about 2 months of this!) I just started crying and couldn't stop. But I kept going because I figured it had to start working sometime...eventually it did and I never want to get back to that point again!

Maren Zabel
Maren Zabel
10/22/2013 9:46:49 AM #

When have I felt discouraged?  Often.  Life has a million things pulling me, and most people in my life, many directions and there is never enough time for everything.  Since my eldest was born, my time is more limited and even when I have time, there is a small person jumping on me or needing my attention in some way.  I was a cross country skiier, a cross country runner and a capoeirista.  I loved doing these sports and pushing my body to its limits but, in addition to the time restraints, my body isn't young anymore.  Running and capoiera are hard and painful for a person with poor the hips and knees.  The sports that gave me so much pleasure no longer fit with my family life or the body I inhabit.  I've had to search for new ways to fill that need that fit with my responsibilities.  To be happy, I need to reach a state of flow, excercise and be learning something daily.  Currently, I walk uphill on the treadmill while listening to a lecture or I do a muted and modified P90X video while watching a lecture.  My exercise routines are more serene then in my younger days.  If I can find the time to do them, I am a much happier person.

Meredith
Meredith
10/22/2013 9:50:01 AM #

What a great show! I am going to watch it tonight!

I've been working out with a trainer for over a year and a half now. I wasn't happy with my weight but I never felt comfortable putting a number on my weight loss goal. I started wearing skirts and dresses to work because I dreaded trying on pants in the morning and not being able to button them. The dresses hid all of that extra weight.

Slowly I've been losing it, and picked up running which really helped. While I was losing weight, my BMI was still over 30% and I was still considered obese. Finally, 2 months ago my trainer convinced me to tweak my diet, and I saw such a noticeable difference. I'm finally under that 30% (now I'm technically still overweight, but not obese), and have new motivation to keep that going. Seeing results is huge because it's so much harder to lose weight then to gain it!

It's been amazing to hear compliments of people who haven't seen me in a while and notice the weight I've lost! I've gone from a 14, to a size 8 in most dresses. I have a little bit more to go, but I love my new body and how it makes me feel so much more confident!

I'd love to have some help with buying new clothes! All of mine are too big now!!

Taylor
Taylor
10/22/2013 9:51:36 AM #

I get discouraged with my eating habits - I have severe IBS, which sometimes makes clean eating a challenge.  On bad days, I cannot tolerate any veggie - raw or cooked, and fruit (except bananas) is out of the question.  I've gotten better at reminding myself that healthy living is a lifestyle, and that my body is best at telling me what works and what isn't working.  It's all about doing our best and staying positive!

What a giveaway!  Have a great Tuesday!

Jill Griffiths
Jill Griffiths
10/22/2013 9:53:21 AM #

After I had my 3 baby, I really had to work to get the body back that I remembered.  Funny thing was I actually reached the same weight as I had been before my pregnancy within the 1st month of my babies life.  But it looked nothing like it did before baby!  I had to work and strength train and really dedicate any allowed time to getting my body back.  It took awhile and I remember being very discouraged at times, but I finally got it back.

Casey @cswfityoga
Casey @cswfityoga
10/22/2013 10:00:24 AM #

When I was trying to defend an employee and the boss wouldn't support me and took the "man's" side over mine because I was a woman...discrimination! I quit right then and there and said I would never let someone belittle me like that.  

FitYaf
FitYaf
10/22/2013 10:08:33 AM #

I sometimes get discouraged when I try to push myself too hard, too quickly.

Lynn Swanson
Lynn Swanson
10/22/2013 10:08:38 AM #

I think my difficult moments are when I go to weigh in at WW and my husband will text me if on the way home I could stop at Dunkin Donuts and pick up a dozen donuts and a bacon egg and cheese croissant sandwich for him. I feel like he is trying to sabotage all the good work and hard work that I am doing.  kind of like asking an alcoholic to stop at the liquor store on the way home from there a AA meeting.

Meredith Nolen
Meredith Nolen
10/22/2013 10:38:42 AM #

I often get discouraged after terrible runs. I have such a love/hate relationship with running. I've been running for over 2 years now consistently and it's a daily struggle to stay positive in regards to my runs. One day I'll have the best run ever, the next day...it's like I've never ran before. It definitely knocks me down sometimes and I lose my motivation. Lately, motivation to get out there is run has been my struggle. I haven't had any great runs lately and it is discouraging. It won't stop me though. I'll keep trying. Even if they are bad runs, they are still runs and I'm still get the mileage and my body is still changing thanks to it. It definitely helps to think of the positives after the bad runs, it's what gets me through to the next run.

Karrie Middaugh
Karrie Middaugh
10/22/2013 10:51:39 AM #

The place where I used to work out for 4 years, where I met tons of new friends and and my awesome running partner, closed its doors.  I had to find another place to workout.  When the manager asked what I had been doing for exercise previously, and I told him the name of the former gym, he said, "Oh that's where my grandma used to workout and she didn't like it because it wasn't effective."  I didn't appreciate the negative remarks about a place that had helped me get to my goal of losing 104 lbs and I lost 65 inches.  Then the personal trainer asked me what goals I set to keep motivated.  When I told her I had a half in a few days and a full the next week, she sarcastically said, "MARATHONS?".  People shouldn't judge a book by its cover.  I'm not young and skinny and the model type, but I can win medals in my age group and pace 26.2 miles and have helped at least one person qualify for the Boston Marathon.  Don't try to get inside my head and make me feel inferior!!  I'm no longer the girl who used to be the consolation prize when picking teams in gym class.

Brianna Kolota
Brianna Kolota
10/22/2013 11:03:38 AM #

Every once in a while, I'll have a day when I don't eat the healthiest foods or don't exercise like I had planned. However, I always remember that every day is a new day, and I have the chance to make healthy choices.  

Amanda R
Amanda R
10/22/2013 11:08:32 AM #

One thing that sticks out in my mind was about a year and a half after I had my first son, someone asked me when I was due. I felt after that long I could no longer justify it as baby weight and that hurt. It made me open my eyes and wake up!

Jill
Jill
10/22/2013 11:10:18 AM #

My most discouraging time was in High School.    It seemed like my friends could eat whatever they wanted and always stayed thin.   But I have always had to watch every morsel I put in my mouth and exercise.    Since then - I have learned to LOVE to work out and balance that with healthy eating.    This is an awesome giveaway!   Thank you.

Melinda
Melinda
10/22/2013 11:11:34 AM #

What a great giveaway!!!  I think the biggest time I have felt discouraged is when I discovered the Paleo diet.  I was surrounded by people who ate nothing, but processed foods.  I knew how great I felt and how much healthier I felt when I switched to Paleo eating, but it was so hard to be around people who would ask questions about it and just say oh well that's stupid.  I would hear oh you can clearly eat just as healthy eating processed foods, oh my better not eat that bread you'll get fat, oh watch out that might have gluten in it - the list goes on and on.  It was so hard to listen to it - I knew I was making the best choices for me, but to have absolutely no support made it really tough not to say screw it and just start eating all the other stuff.  

Kimberly
Kimberly
10/22/2013 11:12:52 AM #

I never gained the Freshman 15 in college that people speak of- I gained the Freshman 50. I was 19, pregnant, and delivered my first born right after my spring Finals. Having a baby in college was tough, but I went right back to my size 0 self. I remained that size 0 until I was 25 and became pregnant with with my second son. That pregnancy was rough, and having Kidney Disease didn't help. Shortly after my 2nd I had my 3rd son. Then the excuses began. Oh I'm too tired, oh they're too close in age. My son Logan was diagnosed with ASD and Epilepsy, instead of my 'housewife' days being spent at home, or at the gym - they were spent at Dr's offices, Specialists, even pulling him from school. I focused so intently on my children that I lost focus of myself.

Recently I learned that my Spouse had an extra-marital affair. One would think I would have been surprised - but I wasn't. Not even mildly. I am sharing this story- not really to win- because Honestly- as much as it would be like Christmas for me to win, I'd rather see my Sweet Friend Carolyn win. I'm sharing my story - because simply it's my story, but if it would help one more person see that beauty lies within them, then by my sharing it helped one person.

The woman my husband had an affair with would poke fun of me via text and FB right under my nose at that - calling me 'pudgy' and 'fat' - even saying I had an ugly face, or a Face for Radio when we would be on the Mom Squad (Jenny and I that is- this girl wasn't a Mom Squad Mom for sure!) ... it really really broke my spirits, but looking back on my life- I have 3 beautiful boys- and sure, I might have gained some weight having 3 kids - and not doing much about it- but thanks to friends like Jenny and Theresa, I became motivated. I started running, doing programs at home, when I could find the time... and really put an effort forward. I know whoever wins this is going to be like a kid on Christmas, and that makes my heart happy. The fact that this even exists makes my heart happy - and knowing that no matter what- even in your darkest moments- you have the choice to live your life how you think it should be lived. NO one can take that away from you!

Go out there and get at it girls Smile And good luck to everyone Smile

Thanks for being awesome Jenny - Love you friend!

Jessica L
Jessica L
10/22/2013 11:32:42 AM #

I think its easy to look in the mirror everyday and be discouraged. Even though I (or anyone) has come so far, its hard to look in the mirror and still not pick out the flaws.

Christina
Christina
10/22/2013 11:33:44 AM #

I usually feel discouraged when I hit a plateau.  I know it takes some time and being consistent to push through but it's often very hard to stay motivated when the scale stays the same!

Courtney Norman
Courtney Norman
10/22/2013 11:50:15 AM #

One of the first times I tried to lose weight in high school was because I wanted to be on the softball team but I was so out of shape. I went to ONE of the softball conditioning workouts before try outs and nearly died just running around the track once. I was so discouraged I gave up trying to get on the team and trying to lose weight all together. It wasn't until nearly 10 years later I actually started to lose the weight. I wish I could go back and tell 9th grade me to keep it up because it's worth it!

Elle
Elle
10/22/2013 11:52:07 AM #

I always feel especially discouraged this time of the year, when it gets colder and darker. I lose my energy, want to sleep all the time and have no motivation to exercise and even to meal plan. Late fall/early winter just sucks the energy out of me.

Her Royal Thighness
Her Royal Thighness
10/22/2013 12:18:59 PM #

I'm feeling very discouraged right now, after losing 60 pounds on Jenny Craig and becoming a runner at the age of 49. My goal was to be in the best shape of my life at 50, and I was always in such lousy shape, I accomplished that with flying colors. Last year at this time, I was feeling so good about myself. I was becoming an athlete. To try to become a better runner, I decided I needed to up my weight loss game, so I joined a new gym -- Orange Theory Fitness -- and signed a six-month contract ... only to injure myself in the first class. For months, I couldn't run, and running had become everything to me.  It gave me a self-satisfying high. It was a calorie burner AND an appetite suppressant. Not being able to run, combined with our business going under made me turn back to nervous eating. I've gained back 2/3 of everything I worked so hard to lose on Jenny Craig. And after months of physical therapy for my injured knees, I can't return to running without losing weight. So I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place -- very discouraged. I've started a humor blog to help me laugh about my life, instead of crying about it! But I can't afford to go back to Jenny Craig, and nothing else seems to click. I'm feeling diet defeated at the moment! Most of all, I'm feeling disappointed in myself, to backslide after all of my hard work.

Jennifer R
Jennifer R
10/22/2013 12:20:35 PM #

i've been fit to fat so many times, it feels so discouraging to start from (what feels like) square one again! i just got over the "i don't care how much weight i gain" mentality so here i go on a journey to lose 20 pounds!

Lia
Lia
10/22/2013 12:46:46 PM #

I felt discouraged after gaining back the weight I lose after I had my second son. However, this experience taught me to be resilient, how to eat better (no more cutting out carbs or restrictive eating), and choose activities that speak to me like Zumba, spinning, and outdoorsy activities with my family. I am not back to that size I was but I am at a healthy weight and active and most importantly HAPPY!

Lindsay @ Lindsay Weighs In
Lindsay @ Lindsay Weighs In
10/22/2013 12:51:57 PM #

Wow, what a fabulous giveaway! This is the third time I've tried to lose weight (I've lost and gained the same 40 pounds a few times!) I am currently 70 pounds overweight. I get discouraged sometimes because of my lack of planning. I know I have a better week, and eat healthier, when I take the time over the weekend to meal plan, and food prep. This requires me to plan ahead. I'm currently a grad student (just started 3 weeks ago!) and am still struggling to find the balance between working full time, school, my personal life and my health. I know it will be a constant battle, and I will get discouraged sometimes, but ultimately, it's a battle I want to win and I will continue trying until I reach my goal Smile

Sara Craft
Sara Craft
10/22/2013 1:00:00 PM #

I've felt discouraged when I moved away from home for the first time. I was trying to get used to this new life and in return, I gained 45 lbs. I went from a size 1 to a size 9 in the matter of six months.  
My whole life I have struggled with tummy and digestive issues. I was in and out of doctors offices when I was little, then when I got older I would just try and cover it up by eating whatever and drinking whatever.  It was was not until a year ago that I visted an allergist who diagnosed me with a liat of food allergies. I was relieved to know I can feel great. And I did, I lost 10 lbs in the first 2 weeks. But then it got harder and more discouraging.  I am only 26 and would love to not have to think about what I can drink or eat. On one hand it is a blessing, on the other it is discouraging.  
It was not until my night in the hospital ER that my eyes were open. I went to my typical "I'm 26, I will eat what I want" excuses that ended up with anaphylaxis shock. My eyes have been opened, and I am so blessed to have married a man who is patient, understanding and right there by my side.  We just got married one month ago amd it has been hard because I have been so sick.
It has been tbree weeks since my hospital visit and I am back on track. At the gym almost every day, and starting to feel like my old self again!
Thank you for reading my story, I hope I am able to help others struggling as well.
Sara

Debbie @ Healthy Running Mom
Debbie @ Healthy Running Mom
10/22/2013 1:10:17 PM #

Well here it goes.  I exercise & feel good about my body when I do so on a consistent basis, which I do now as a 45 yr old woman.  I've never been the skinny one in a group & will neber be.  I don't have that body type.  I'm not a thin person.  I am a healthy person, but I can't lie & do wish that I were able to wear a short skirt & have lovely legs to show off.  I also wish I were comfortable wearing a great pair of jeans or a bathing suit.  Instead, I wear boot cut jeans & bathing suits with skirts.  I always have been this way.  I am in decent shape, but not a thin person.  I do envy people who accept their body as is & I strive to be that way!  
I don't use the scale anymore because when I weighed myself to measure my success, it was never good enough.  Now, I can tell simply by how body feels & that works for me.  I'm thrilled to tell you it doesn't matter what the scale says, it's how I feel that counts!  
I don't own a scale & am teaching my kids that a number doesn't matter!

Crystal
Crystal
10/22/2013 1:17:21 PM #

I've gotten discouraged in the past when I try to compare myself to others. I see friends/coworkers that eat junk, don't work out and are still thin and beautiful, while I struggle to lose a pound while running, biking, watching what I eat, etc. The most important thing I learned is we cannot compare ourselves with others!

Marcia Kadens
Marcia Kadens
10/22/2013 1:19:58 PM #

I have been feeling discouraged for the past year or so and am trying to dig out of it. Perimenopause has wreaked havoc on me. I feel like everything I worked so hard for: losing 50 lbs, becoming a runner, etc is slipping away because of thyroid issues that affect my heart. I never minded the prospect of aging but I am struggling to find a way around these obstacles and live my best life.

Jennifer
Jennifer
10/22/2013 1:24:14 PM #

I love reading all your comments. I think you are ALL amazing! <3

Katie Morrow
Katie Morrow
10/22/2013 1:40:12 PM #

Was discouraged earlier this year with my running. I wasn't improving my times and wasn't getting any faster. I finally found out I have asthma and as soon as I started managing that I could see my runs getting easier. I seem to be hitting a wall again with my speed but this time I'm not as concerned because I'm getting out there and doing the best I can.

Ruth Rippel
Ruth Rippel
10/22/2013 1:42:29 PM #

I have been the fat friend before and had so called friends made snide remarks such as "Aren't you embarrassed by your weight. I became ill for over a year and now am down to109 lbs. The friend who made the remark to me probably weighs 180 lbs. herself now. I guess what goes around comes around and now she knows what it feels like to be the fat friend. I'm sure it will make her think twice about making insensitive remarks to someone who has a weight problem. As for myself, having walked in those shoes, I only have words of encouragement for those with problems with their weight. Stick with a sensible diet and exercise. Make short term goals such as 5 lbs. at a time rather then thinking about the long term goal. Don't let other's discourage you, ignore any remarks that might hurt you. You know what your goal is and YOU are the one in control.

Abby
Abby
10/22/2013 2:00:59 PM #

My goal was to work out 4 days a week, but in order to so that I had to take two morning exercise classes. I am not a morning person! I find myself staying in bed instead of getting up for class, especially as it gets darker and colder in the morning! It's very frustrating that no matter how hard I try the night before I won't get up in the morning .

Maggie Boxey
Maggie Boxey
10/22/2013 2:17:13 PM #

I was feeling very discouraged about 9 months after my youngest son was born (he's 2 now) & I was still wearing clothes that I wore when I was pregnant. I was trying hard but the weight wasn't budging. Thankfully my husband has been supportive and loving at every weight- but I have not been loving to myself. I gave up on the shake diets and the gimmicks. I started running and started eating plant based whole foods. I cooked for myself even when it wasn't convenient. I put my runs on my schedule before anything else. I set non-weight related goals (run 5k, 10k, run faster, run farther etc etc) and started signing up for races. I stopped focusing on what I looked like on the outside and started focusing and marveling at what my body can do! I still have bad days for self image, but not like before. I am running my first ever FULL marathon this weekend!!! I look back on where I was and I'm baffled at how it seemed so impossible then, but I just did it anyway...

Kathy
Kathy
10/22/2013 2:30:10 PM #

I have felt discouraged because my weight has gone up and down my entire life. I have had people put me down for no reason, "how hot I would be if I was smaller". But I keep pushing forward no matter what.

Kyndra Holley
Kyndra Holley
10/22/2013 2:30:39 PM #

I was over weight most of my young adult life and on into adulthood.  I was always the "fat friend".  I never wanted to have my picture taken and if I did, I always hid behind my skinny friends.  I would be the only one in pants and a hoodie in nice weather while all of my skinny girlfriends were wearing dresses.  I ended up being just one of the guys.  The guys we would hang out with would even talk to me about my girlfriends and ask for advice and say things like "Why can't they be more like you?"  That always hurt the most because I knew that they were saying I was the complete package on the inside. Sometimes people think they are complimenting you and they are really cutting you down.  I also had a guy say to me that I had the perfect personality and the perfect face.  We both knew what that missing element was. For years I let those kinds of things hold me back.  It became my reason and my excuse not to do anything about it.  I wish I could say exactly where it came from but one day I just stopped caring what anyone thought.  I shed my life of the toxic people in it.  I made sure that I was surrounded by people that truly loved and supported me.  With that love and support I began to blossom into the woman I am today.  I like to think that I will forever be a work in progress but right now I am pretty happy being me

meranda@fairytalesandfitness
meranda@fairytalesandfitness
10/22/2013 2:46:06 PM #

It can be quite discouraging when you are trying to do something to better yourself and someone stands in the way of that because they don't think you are worthy! This has happened to me in other aspects of my life, not just losing weight! it just makes you want to push that much harder!

Nori
Nori
10/22/2013 3:03:03 PM #

I have never been significantly overweight, but I have ulcerative colitis which often limits my activity.  Having uncontrollable bowel movements doesn't exactly make for ideal exercising conditions!  There have been many times where I cried instead of ran, many times where I've hit the woods for an emergency pit stop, and many times when I've resigned myself to working out the best I can while making sure I'm near a bathroom.  Even when I'm in a flare-free period, I find myself avoiding early morning events (and it seems like ALL events are in the morning!) because I fear that I'm going to have an attack and embarrass myself.  Frown

Rosi
Rosi
10/22/2013 3:10:11 PM #

Ironic maybe, but I almost feel like I am currently in that discouraged state. I had a baby four months ago and decided to take the year off of teaching to put my CSCS certification to good use as a trainer, group fitness instructor, and blogger. For a couple reasons. One I really want to pursue a fitness career outside of the high school (I taught aerobics there.) and two I would like to be able to have the flexibility to stay home with my daughter and future children while working. I knew it wouldn't be a piece of cake to essentially begin a new career, especially one that is kind of your own business. Everyday I work really hard to get my name out there and pick up classes. Just when I start to feel discouraged something happens that shows me I have made the right decision. It's good and difficult. Good because it keeps my hope and spirit lifted, difficult because living on just my husbands salary as a teacher is hard but I know even the small steps I have taken will eventually get me to my destination.. I just got hired by the YMCA to teach a few classes and I'm so excited. Winning this would be amazing because I could get some new workout gear that I desperately need but can't afford at the moment and it would be another one of those rays of sunshine that show me I'm headed in the right direction. But even if I don't get it I won't let that stop me from pushing for my goals.  Thank you for holding your giveaway.

Holly Jean
Holly Jean
10/22/2013 3:11:23 PM #

I gained weight in college and struggled lose it until I hired a trainer to teach me proper nutrition and exercise. Once I lost the weight, I ultimately changed my life, my confidence, and the way I looked at myself if the mirror. But I remember being in college working part time for American Eagle Outfitters, and struggling to fit in the clothes as I gained weight. It was mortifying for customers and fellow employees to ask me where I bought my jeans, when I could not answer the same store we worked in.

For those of you on the path to weight loss, I encourage you to focus on your health and the way your clothes fit and not be so concerned with the number on the scale!

Rosie
Rosie
10/22/2013 3:36:31 PM #

I had completed a one-year gym membership and could not afford to renew it. So.... I bought free weights and started using them at home. I really didn't think much how I had heard it isn't safe to use barbells, dumbbells, ,etc., without a spotter, and actually, a personal trainer.  I never had any problems, and had gotten quite strong.  I'm looking at the TV while lifting and all of a sudden my foot slipped. Well, in order to avoid falling into the TV crashing the weights, I yanked back. I ended up getting a torn rotator cuff. That was a wake up call and it took years to be better with therapy, etc. I sold my free weights and have concentrated on exercises without weights or only very light weights. And it is just as good, and of course, actually much better, because I'm making sure I exercise safely. All those words of precaution are for a reason.

kia
kia
10/22/2013 3:38:36 PM #

The worst I felt was when I was recovering from my '06 car accident.  I went from a 1:45 1/2 marathon dork to not being able to walk.  The depression that ensued was the worst as my mobility, athleticism, then eventually grad program had to fall away and I felt trapped in a stupid body.  There was weight gain and it all is still not off.  I eventually learned some loving kindness towards the less perfect physical form I was left with and that has made life so much easier.

kim prytherch
kim prytherch
10/22/2013 3:38:56 PM #

I started running two years ago, when a friend and I "broke up". I was miserable as her friend because she was unhappy. I always felt angry and frustrated, because she was always so down. I tried to change the subject when she would go on one of her rants, and she said that it made be self centered and selfish. When we stopped being friends, I started running and eating better. I started my blog, and never looked back. We cross paths sometimes and apparently she reads my blog. When she started blogging occasionally, I thought I would see how she was doing, since she started running  not long after I did. The first post bashed me, and a few after seemed to be directed at me as well. I never understood why she felt the need to make me feel small, (or, rather, big) but I guess it cheered her up. I avoid her at races, and do not read her blog anymore, but those unkind words always seem to float in the back of my head, taunting me.
I have lost about 20 pounds, but have struggled over the last year with the last 15-20. I am getting there, and I have lots of great running friends, blogging friends, and lifetime friends.
Eventually, I will lose the last 15, although I feel a lot better now than I did 2 years ago. Things happen for a reason, and I am glad that we "broke up". I am a happier person now, and a healthier one!

Megan (The Lyons&#39; Share)
Megan (The Lyons' Share)
10/22/2013 3:42:06 PM #

I've often been discouraged when I don't meet a race goal that I've set for myself, but I remind myself to just love the run!

Blake
Blake
10/22/2013 3:42:12 PM #

I've had a tough go of it lately with a lot of new things going on and its caused me to not only feel discouraged but also not fit into my jeans anymore. I'd love the opportunity to win this prize pack to help kick start this new me.

amber
amber
10/22/2013 4:13:09 PM #

I just got through a phase of discouragement.  About 18months ago I started my journey after my 3rd baby.  I lost all my pregnancy weight gain from my 3rd after 18 days and just kept losing.  I found out I was pregnant with baby #4 this last Feb.  Well baby #4 is now 3 months (this Friday) and I started back up ready to lose my weight Sept 1.  Well in that first week I gained 10 lbs, a few lbs came off the next week then nothing for about 3 weeks.  i was doing everything right, logging my food, drinking my water, working out but nothing was making the scale move.  My husband and a friend told me it was just hormones going whacky and to just give it time.  Well the old me 18 months ago would have thrown in the towel BUT the new me, that knows this is a lifestyle change, said even though the scale is not moving I KNOW I am doing better for me and that is all it takes sometimes.  I kept with it and now in the last 7 weeks (since I started back at it) I have lost 13.6 lbs and 12 inches Smile  Being discouraged can either keep u from reaching your goals or it can make u keep going because what else r u going to do Smile never going back!

Emily
Emily
10/22/2013 4:37:30 PM #

It's discouraging to me to "wait for results" - if I don't see the scale or inches moving the way I want, I lose interest. I've found that I need a very specific goal to focus on and work toward. Now, to set a new one!

Nicole
Nicole
10/22/2013 4:38:42 PM #

I am slightly discouraged now!  I feel like those around me are more capable of hard things (ie, run a marathon) and I am not.  I am definitely working through some mental stuff as far as focusing on me, my goals, my capabilities and NOT comparing myself to others.

Ang
Ang
10/22/2013 4:39:27 PM #

I've been overweight since puberty. Last June, I started with new lifestyle changes and with eating healthy and walking 3 times a week, managed to lose about 40 pounds total. I have depression and SAD, and over the winter, I fell back into a deep dark pit, and combining that with some health setbacks I've been dealing with this year, I've put all the weight back on and am really NOT motivated to lose it, even though I know how and I know that every day I live unhealthily I shave a few minutes off my lifespan. Winning something like this would hopefully give me the OOMPH I need to get back on track.  

Elizabeth McGlasson
Elizabeth McGlasson
10/22/2013 4:39:44 PM #

One time I was training for a 5k race in honor of my cousin who had passed away the year before and I was having trouble. I was working 12 hour days and didnt have enough time to train and on top of that I was having trouble with my hip. But I fraught through and finished in his honor. I was no where where I needed to be health wise bc of my hip and not training enough, but just the thought of my cousin helped me fight to finish. After that year I do it every year!  

Kerissa
Kerissa
10/22/2013 4:56:23 PM #

I would be so excited if I won one if the mentioned prizes! I lost weight, gained it back in college, had a daughter and gained more. Took me 4 years to decide I was worth it to lose the weight and then became pregnant 6 months later and I feel like a complete failure! Would love to win to boost my self essteem and buy some new workout clothing to show I am worth it and keep it off!

Danielle
Danielle
10/22/2013 4:57:49 PM #

I felt discouraged wth my previous attempts at losing weight. I thought I was doing eveything right and was told I was, but I didn't lose. It was so frustrating to work out and not see the results. I have now found low carb and I'm on a mission. It's encouraging to see the weight loss every week! Last week was only .4, but still....it's a loss!

Carrie
Carrie
10/22/2013 5:01:31 PM #

I lost over 100 lbs from my 5' nothing frame and swore I'd never go back but then everything in my world began falling apart. My daughter was diagnosed with a devastating medical condition while on her two week visitation with her dad who lives on the other side of the states. When she came home began all of the hospitals and doctors which some days still exhausts me. My relationship of six years was disintegrating and there I was. I went back. I'm steadily losing again. My goal weight is 50 lbs away!

Josie
Josie
10/22/2013 5:03:20 PM #

I get discouraged because I feel like I am working so hard : exercise , eating right ...and clothes are still tight .. I am lucky my husband has always stuck by me and encourages me . But I keep plugging along !

Anne-Marie
Anne-Marie
10/22/2013 5:04:31 PM #

I try to be the best mom, wife and friend that I can. Taking care of my family is my top priority. It's discouraging when I work really hard to make delicious, HEALTHY food for my family and one (or more) of them rejects it. I try not to take it personally, but sometimes it really makes me question why I work so hard. I do know, though, that in the end it is so worth it. We are the healthiest we have ever been and my kids are thriving. So I try to focus on the positive and not let the negative get me down too much. Smile

Cathy
Cathy
10/22/2013 5:07:44 PM #

My lowest point was probably when it came time to shop for wedding dresses.  I went to David's Bridal to try to find a wedding gown and at my current weight, the woman told me that there was nothing she could show me.  She basically told me that they didn't make dresses that would probably fit me and told me she could try to find some but it probably wouldn't work out well.  I remember leaving in tears, feeling worthless, and resolving that I would get healthier and in better shape.  I have been doing WW and have been slow at it but at least I have been doing it.

Carrie H
Carrie H
10/22/2013 5:14:05 PM #

Just this past weekend. I trained so hard for a time and missed it.

Carrie H
Carrie H
10/22/2013 5:14:49 PM #

This past weekend.  I trained so hard for a time and missed it by a few minutes

Jamie H.
Jamie H.
10/22/2013 5:15:57 PM #

I had finally decided it was time to get fit after a lifetime of being overweight and so decided to adopt a low-carb lifestyle (which I later refined to a sugar, grain and gluten free life).  Even as it was working and the pounds were coming off, my husband at the time was always discouraging, picking at the food I was eating, how I was eating it and how I would look better if only I would do things his way.  Well, I persevered, continued to lose weight and get fit and now am 40 with 2 beautiful little boys (and an amazing and supportive husband) and am thinner and healthier than I ever have been since my pre-teen years.  

Heather Black
Heather Black
10/22/2013 5:16:44 PM #

I am actually going through this right now.  I'm trying to become a better me and reach success, but I'm being discouraged at the moment while searching for the right job.  Rejection letter after rejection letter has been a pretty big hit to my ego and my feeling of success for my future, but I'm pressing on and continuing to apply for job after job, but it's definitely a discouraging feeling when I know my dream is to be a successful marketer in my field.

Elizabeth Mayfield
Elizabeth Mayfield
10/22/2013 5:33:41 PM #

I decided to change my lifestyle about three years ago when I went to donate blood and it was so high they wouldn't let more s donate and asked if I was feeling well enough to leave. I consulted with my physician, altered what I ate and began to exercise. Over the course of a few months, I was able to tone up and lose a little weight and get my labs and blood pressure to acceptable levels. My goal was to get off the blood pressure meds I've been on for ten years. I've learned that my high blood pressure is genetic, so I most likely will never be completely off my medicines. Instead of a setback, I try to look at it as a constant reminder to eat well and stay active.

Jill Will Run
Jill Will Run
10/22/2013 5:47:26 PM #

Sooooo many times in life have I felt discouraged when reaching for a big goal. I think it happens to all of us! From a bad run during marathon training to frustration while battling through eating disorder treatment.  Right now I'm struggling because I don't know how to balance all of my many hats while still keeping my sanity!

Tammy S
Tammy S
10/22/2013 6:18:42 PM #

For me it's not all about the numbers on the scale. I was doing really well losing weight and becoming healthier. Then my new best friend Fibromyalgia showed up. It seemed like I never felt good, was always in pain, could barely move some days. It took the doctors a year to finally diagnose me and find a treatment that helps. I have had to modify my plans and end goal due to my health and energy level.  I am now working my way back to my goal of being the healthiest me. I take each day as it comes and count my blessings.  

amy
amy
10/22/2013 6:37:27 PM #

while i was working toward my college degree. i was very ppor & had to work all the time. it was a difficult time for me. i didnt really start to feel better until i had graduated and been working for a few years

Nikki Kendall
Nikki Kendall
10/22/2013 6:39:26 PM #

I've been trying to lose these last 8lbs for about 3 years. I've run multiple marathons and even did a damn ironman but still can't shake these last 8! Grrrrr! I'm a work in progress!!

Jessie C.
Jessie C.
10/22/2013 6:46:38 PM #

I set my goal to exercise at least 30 minutes daily, and got discouraged when life got in the way, busy as excuses...etc.  Started all over is frustrating.

Michelle D
Michelle D
10/22/2013 7:04:04 PM #

I have felt very discouraged when after a week of working out regularly and watching what I eat, I actually gain weight!

Vanessa Safie
Vanessa Safie
10/22/2013 7:11:27 PM #

I felt most discouraged when I missed my weight loss goals. Twice it happened despite all my hard work and clean eating. Working towards my goals was especially hard after missing those benchmarks.

Nanci @ This Crazy Life of Mine
Nanci @ This Crazy Life of Mine
10/22/2013 7:25:50 PM #

What an awesome giveaway! The most discouraged I have ever felt while losing weight would have to be after our failed fertility treatments. I had put on weight not only from stress, but also the medications I took. It was hard to take care of myself, or even want to, when my body wasn't working. The last thing I wanted to do was take care of it. It was a very difficult time. In addition, after our failed round of IVF, I finally got the desire to run, simply because I needed the distraction, but my hips were very sore from all the injections I did that cycle. So, I couldn't even run to feel better. It took a couple years to get to the point where I really felt like my body was worth taking care of. I still have moments when I don't like my body, but this year it has proven to me just how strong it really is. And I am not going to give up.

Lucy
Lucy
10/22/2013 7:40:46 PM #

When I train and don't meet my race goal!

Madeline G
Madeline G
10/22/2013 8:16:26 PM #

I felt really discouraged when I was trying to lose the baby weight and the scale wouldn't budge.  Once I figured things out things moved in the right direction!

Kelly @ Leafy Not Beefy
Kelly @ Leafy Not Beefy
10/22/2013 8:43:21 PM #

Oh, I'd love to win!  It's always hard to lose weight and get healthy, but it's especially discouraging when you're trying to work on it and the people around you make you feel like you're an alien for eating differently, or are putting down others who might be overweight, or commenting on how fat they think they are, and they're much thinner than I am, that really feels awkward and uncomfortable, even if they don't realize what they're saying.

Trina Thome
Trina Thome
10/22/2013 9:05:27 PM #

I have been feeling discouraged for the past few months. I began my journey on Feb 1 2012 and so far I have lost 120ish. Unfortunately, I haven't lost anything in the last 6 months. I continue to eat well and I am trying to step it up in the gym, but nothing is budging.  Even though it is frustrating, I know I have to keep at it.

Amy Lumley
Amy Lumley
10/22/2013 9:35:12 PM #

I recently had a baby and ended up gaining no weight during the pregnancy.  However, now my weight is starting to creep back on, so I am currently discouraged!

Presley
Presley
10/22/2013 9:57:48 PM #

The most discourage thing to me is when it seems like you don't have anyone on your side. Sounds dramatic, but it's true. I think you just have to realize you have to be in it for YOU. Smile

Liza
Liza
10/22/2013 10:18:41 PM #

I'm currently on a medication that has weight gain as a side effect.  Before I was taking it, I was down to my lowest weight in the past 10 years.  Sometimes it's discouraging, but I just keep telling myself I can make progress again when I'm done with it in a few months.

Erin
Erin
10/22/2013 10:29:36 PM #

I have noticed that I will compare myself to others instead of to my accomplishments.  This behavior (in hindsight) was what kept me from recognizing my progress in 2011 of losing 80 pounds and eventually lead to my gaining back 50 pounds.  It is hard to see my personal accomplishments because when I look in the mirror I only see that I'm not at my goal.  I now know, and truly understand, that every step in the right direction with my weight issue is a positive step and I should be proud of it.  I'm sure I will always compare myself and my progress to others, but I've been trying to be more conscious of my progress and becoming a healthier, better person.

Linsey Muse
Linsey Muse
10/22/2013 10:40:33 PM #

Not only have I always been the "fat" friend ,I've always felt like the biggest in the room. I always felt apart from others. This  year I'm changing that. Since January I've lost 46lbs, signed up for a Spartan race, and joined Crossfit No'Ala. I love the  change I'm going through!  

Jessica
Jessica
10/22/2013 10:41:57 PM #

I'm currently feeling discouraged.  All my life I've been on the heavier side but I was active.  When I went to college, I gained a lot of weight but lost it through WW.  When I met my husband, I was at my smallest ever.  2 kids later, I've yo-yo'd numerous times.  Not only have I gone back to WW at least twice and gained all of my weight back, I've just gotten trapped in this huge funk. I desperately want to get fit but I'm mentally not there.  Not ready to 100% commit.  My husband is great because he loves me no matter what and always thinks I'm nuts for saying I'm fat but he's also not horribly supportive of getting fit.  He's not that active and doesn't really want to be right now so its hard. Not having someone to go through the journey with is hard.  I'll get back there, I know I will.  I just need that push.

Ally Simpson
Ally Simpson
10/22/2013 11:39:51 PM #

I was discouraged pretty heavily this past week.  I spend all summer working out, eating well, counting calories and started lifting.  I lost just over 41lbs.  Then I accidentally strained my deep flexor tendon in my foot.  It's hurt for several weeks, I feel dumpy and pathetic.  I really need to get my act together and stop feeling sorry and move on!

Lindsay M.
Lindsay M.
10/22/2013 11:46:52 PM #

When I was younger and I started gaining weight everyone made me feel self conscious and even though I wanted to lose weight it was really hard. At a young age I lost confidence and thus stopped even trying to lose weight. Until recently I just did my best to ignore it. Now I am really determined to become a healthier person and I am too stubborn to give up a second time.

Katie Heddleston
Katie Heddleston
10/22/2013 11:50:57 PM #

I try to be an upbeat person and not get discouraged in fitness or other facets of life... but sometimes those slumps happen and I need to give myself a swift kick in the behind (in my brain really!) These moments have happened just on any given day, not a particular phase... I feel like my answer is inadequate compared to all these amazing commenters, but I would love to win this giveaway as well!

Debbie Ganger
Debbie Ganger
10/22/2013 11:56:22 PM #

I feel discouraged right now. I've been stuck in a rut and can't seem to lose a pound then I had surgery and gained weight. Every time I try I become overwhelmed with stress of the day and depressed with no help I turn to food. And financially I can't afford to join a gym or WW or let alone the equipment I need at home. This would help me out tremendously.

Linda
Linda
10/22/2013 11:56:43 PM #

I face Discouragement every day since turning 40.  I see her face in the mirror and she's comparing me to my 20-year-old body and finding me lacking.  I spit in her eye and I see the body that birthed two wonderful boys, that laughed, cried and fought through 23 years of marriage.  I see the body that carried me through my first 5k race and went on to carry me through my first half marathon....all of which was done well after I turned 40!  Discouragement can be a cruel and spiteful b*tch at times.  I stand strong in front of her and am proud of what I have done and where I have been.  I feel sorry for the 20-year-old me that didn't know she could accomplish so much.  Discouragement tries to defeat me but she will never win.  

Andrea
Andrea
10/22/2013 11:57:33 PM #

Unfortunately, right now!  I am training for my first full marathon in January.  And just as I'm getting up into mileage that I've never done before, I've become injured!  Its so discouraging to have to rest when I'm mentally freaking out about getting my miles in.  I know, that come race time, I'll be able to do it, but it's scary and frustrating now!

Rachel Browning
Rachel Browning
10/22/2013 11:59:59 PM #

I'm feeling discouraged right now, training for a marathon (my first) and I'm disappointed that I'm not going to make my goal time.  However, I am still really focused on finishing and have taken that as my encouragement!!!  I'm really determined to be healthy for my family, and I have to try and stay positive and encouraged because negativity will get me nowhere!!  

steff
steff
10/23/2013 12:00:35 AM #

ii have always been the fat unpopular girl. whebn i was 6 someone commented obn my rools. people like you and Mindy Yartze have helped me realize that neither 110 nor 200 are healthy. strong is healthy strong is sexy. im poor but i try to eat well...i have issues but i try to stay happy. thank you for being a role model that healthy will mean happy

steff
steff
10/23/2013 12:02:37 AM #

I have always been the fat unpopular girl. When i was 6 someone commented on my rolls. Awesome women like you and mindy yartze have taught me it isnt 100 or 200... it is strong anfd heLthy that is sexy

Jessica O
Jessica O
10/23/2013 12:21:24 AM #

About a year ago I got just under 400 lbs.  I was so excited and proud of myself.  Life got in the way of having time to workout and so instead of squeezing it in I just stopped.  Put on 10 lbs.  I am however back at it and working hard.  My FB and the ones I follow are my inspiration to keep going!

Linda Parker
Linda Parker
10/23/2013 12:31:39 AM #

Jenny, today was a pretty discouraging moment for me.  I've got osteoarthritis, but usually once I start running, but the time I'm half a mile in, I'm good.  Today, I had nervous anxiety for most of the day, just too much too busy.  But, I stopped and went for a run, feeling that I needed it. It was awful.  It was much hotter than I expected, and I could not get into the groove.  I ended up walking about half of a 4 mile ..run?  Since I've determined that I AM going to do a half marathon, it was very discouraging.  I wanted to feel wonderful, I wanted to fly!  It didn't happen.  But all that said.  I was discouraged.  BUT I"M NOT discouraged.  I will run a half marathon.  I will be a Disney Princess!  These gifts would be awesome and could be used while reaching and achieving my goal!

Lorrianne Byington
Lorrianne Byington
10/23/2013 12:37:06 AM #

Actually my discouragement moment is going on now. I've lost 60lbs in the past year and began running in February.  I ran a trail race in september and strained my LCL and MCL I was just getting back to running after my injury and my daughter and 2 year old grandson moved back home with another baby on the way and another dad not around. I'm at a wall and I don't know how to get over it. I know it is all mental but I want my running back.

Tracy Robertson
Tracy Robertson
10/23/2013 6:17:38 AM #

I've felt discouraged over the past 4 years, because I've been working out more than ever, eating less than I use to, and I still haven't lost an ounce.  In fact, I've put on more than a few pounds over the past 4 years.  I guess it's in part due to being over 40, and in part due to the fact that I've had to face some lifestyle changes.  (I went from working part time and getting plenty of rest to needing to work a full time and a part time job).  My boyfriend is not as supportive as he should be, but I keep at it and stay positive.  I've just recently started watching Dr. Oz and I am getting ideas of some healthy food options that I'd never considered before.  I've been eating lots of mulberries just this past week per his reccomendation.  I haven't lost any weight from that yet, but it's only been a week and I noticed that they have reduced my cravings for sweets when I have them as my evening snack.  I found the mulberries at Whole Foods and plan to return for more and to look for some other health enhancing foods I heard about on his show within the next few days.  

Nancy candy
Nancy candy
10/23/2013 7:13:27 AM #

Being told to get the "big girl ball" (in reference to a yoga ball) in a room full of people.  I was already done 60lbs and thought the balls went by height.

Saramae
Saramae
10/23/2013 7:50:14 AM #

Yes please.....fit me up! I have a girlfriend who would benefit Smile

Heather @ HeatherRunsFast.com
Heather @ HeatherRunsFast.com
10/23/2013 9:00:55 AM #

My husband and I are trying to start a family and I have been discouraged many times because there is not much I can do to make the insides of me work right, haha. I've done, and continue to do what I need to in the healthy eating and exercise department. I don't stress about it, because I know that doesn't help either, but sometimes it is so tough to accept that there is nothing I can do at this point, just wait. Ugh, sorry for the vent session! This is an awesome giveaway Smile

Cindy Schultz
Cindy Schultz
10/23/2013 10:39:36 AM #

In 2012 I worked hard, lost 20lbs and did 3 5ks. I was well on my way to a healthier me. Then 2013 happened and everything went downhill...again. I am currently the heaviest I've ever been. I am disgusted with myself but I still have little motivation, except for the fact that I have signed up for 2 5ks in early 2014. Now that Florida is cooling off I'll be headed outside for my walk/jogs. This giveaway is awesome and it would help me move forward in my healthy pursuits.

Meghan R
Meghan R
10/23/2013 10:51:17 AM #

While training for my 2nd 1/2 marathon. I had done it before, but REALLY training for the 2nd one was rough. Everytime I had a setback it was so hard not to give up. Thankfully I had really supportive friends who kept me going Smile

Haley
Haley
10/23/2013 11:05:08 AM #

Whenever my husband goes out of town, which is 2-3 weeks out of the month, I get really discouraged with my limited workout time..  I utilize the gym for most of my weekday workouts, where I can leave my daughter at the child care while I workout, but I cannot take her with me for my long runs during the weekends.  Instead of getting down on myself, I'll drive over to my parents house for the night and do my long run near their house at the beach.  

Anne Lehnick
Anne Lehnick
10/23/2013 1:26:59 PM #

I feel discouraged when I see all the people who are thinner than me (which is most of them). My excuse is that I am a mom of 2 kids and I work full time. I am up at 5:30 every morning and don't get back home until about 5:30 in the evening. Then it's time to make dinner, get homework done, kid bath time, kid bed time, then I have a tiny bit of time to relax before my bed time. I just can't figure out when all these skinny people find the time to exercise at all.

Patti LeBlanc
Patti LeBlanc
10/23/2013 2:23:06 PM #

I feel discouraged quite often and here are the reasons. I am almost 56 years old and I work out 3 or 4 times a week. I run 3.2 miles 3 times a week and do a 30 minute weight class 3 times a week. Sometimes, I walk or do a cycling class as well once a week. Here's where the discouragement comes in. I can't lose a pound!!! I don't think I'm overeating, but the weight isn't coming off. Some people would probs say that I don't need to lose any weight, but we know our own bodies and how our clothes fit, so I know I need to lose a few. But, I know that exercise has helped my health. My cholesterol numbers have improved. So that's good. Anyway, I will continue to exercise for good health. Who knows, maybe losing will kick in soon!

Michelle
Michelle
10/23/2013 2:44:27 PM #

I feel most discouraged when friends make comments about other people's weight.  It's like they think it's ok because they aren't saying it about me and they'll excuse it by saying, "Well, I don't see you that way."  But it just shows me that if they didn't know me, those negative things would be the first thing they would think of me.  

Kristin @ A Mom on the Run
Kristin @ A Mom on the Run
10/23/2013 3:19:18 PM #

When I was pregnant with my son, I really wanted to have a med-free delivery.  I was amazed at the lack of support I got -- so many people told me I didn't know what I was doing, I was going to ask for the epidural, I was crazy, I was stupid.  They didn't understand why I wanted to be in pain when I didn't have to be.  It was overwhelming and discouraging at a time when I was already emotional, hormonal, and in need of support.

I can't tell you how good it felt when I got the med-free delivery that I wanted, to know that I could do something so powerful and so amazing, when so many people told me that I couldn't.

Jennifer Hutchinson
Jennifer Hutchinson
10/23/2013 7:24:57 PM #

I've always struggled with my weight but now I think it's much harder for me. I am the largest I have ever been in my life. My mother has hypo thyroid and I am planning to go to the doctor to get blood work done to see if I have hypo thyroid as well. I feel really discourage because hypo thyroid slows down your metabolism and I'm packing on the pounds due to an illness I have no control over right now.

Angie Smith
Angie Smith
10/23/2013 10:46:30 PM #

I have always struggled with my weight. I've been thin and I've been overweight. Right now I'm maintaining a healthy weight and it feels good. But I get discouraged with myself when things don't go my way. I need to learn to be more flexible.

Tracy Hill
Tracy Hill
10/23/2013 11:32:47 PM #

Right after I had my daughter I lost my job.  I had lost my identity and was now a new mom, everything I knew had changed. I eventually found Stroller Strides and was so relieved to meet other local mom's going through similar situations that I could talk to as well as work out with. Through this, I started running and taking better care of myself. As running started to become my passion, I was frustrated that my family was not supportive of this. They were discouraging and worried that I was doing too much. I have tried to explain to them that I am fully aware of my limitations and wouldn't be pushing through injury etc. They continue to question my choices at times, but I continue to try and spread my love of running to them and my friends because it has been such a life saver to me.

Katie Preston
Katie Preston
10/24/2013 12:37:28 PM #

I moved to Richmond a little over a year ago, with about 10lbs left to get to my goal weight (been doing weight watchers for over two years). I had trouble finding a meeting that fit my schedule and was conveniently located, and have stalled out in my weight loss.  They always say the last 10lbs are the hardest, but I'm frustrated because I've now run two marathons, trained for other races, and been running a lot - and cycling too - but the stubborn 10lbs just won't go away. I want to be at my goal, and I've even adjusted what my goal is because of this, but it's getting discouraging being so close and yet so far.

Elisabeth
Elisabeth
10/24/2013 4:59:48 PM #

Right now I'm actually going through a period where I'm very discouraged about getting fit. I started working from home about a year ago, and even though I love it, I've gained 13 pounds! I've been trying to lose the weight and it has been so hard!

Jeccica Simpson
Jeccica Simpson
10/24/2013 8:30:51 PM #

I am approaching 40, and I have 3 kids. I am wanting to be around for all of them.
I want to change my eating habits and exercise more, so I can feel better and keep up with my active children.

kk
kk
10/24/2013 9:18:17 PM #

I've felt discouraged when I didn't secure a job I really wanted.

Becca F
Becca F
10/24/2013 9:40:53 PM #

A few years back I was diagnosed with severe TMJ and fibromyalgia. Though I was at the lowest weight I had been in years I was far from healthy. I was dependent on pain meds while I waited for the doctor to set a date for surgery. I had been in school majoring in Dance and had to drop my major even though it was what I lived for. Getting off of those pain meds was so hard but I feel so much stronger now that I've done it

Katie C.
Katie C.
10/24/2013 9:57:23 PM #

I've been fit my whole life... cheerleader, NPC bikini competitor, dancer, etc.  I was also a personal trainer and fitness instructor full time for 8 years .... until I got pregnant, got put on bed rest, and gained 60lbs.  Lost 50 lbs &  got pregnant AGAIN -- when my oldest was only 5 months.  Gained 60 lbs AGAIN.  Now I have two boys 14 months apart & am getting back in shape the HEALTHY way.  Slow & steady wins the race right?  Apparently not in the world because I am getting shunned by the fitness world because I'm still 'fat'.   Why do we all have to be perfect?  Why can't we all just be healthy? Why can't we just all love fitness?  Strive for Progress, not Perfection.

Nancy C
Nancy C
10/25/2013 5:11:22 AM #

Being told to get the 'big girl ball' (in reference to a yoga/pilates ball) when in a class at a gym. I was already down about 60 lbs so to hear that was sickening. I honestly thought the balls went more by height and found the smaller ball easier to manage and that I could actually accomplish the movement properly with a smaller ball. NOW I speak up and I would tell that same person to kiss my tiny ars. =D

sarah cooper
sarah cooper
10/25/2013 2:40:51 PM #

i get discouraged because it never seems like there is enough time in the day for me and my workouts.  I'm a stay at home mom of two, a 3 year old and a 7 month old.  By the time they go to bed I just can't find the energy to get on the treadmill.  It is always a maybe tomorrow kind of situation.  

jenn @comebackmomma
jenn @comebackmomma
10/25/2013 4:03:05 PM #

I actually felt discouraged when I was too obsessed with my fitness. I beat myself up when I did not eat right or exercise. I am so much more at peace now that I am focusing on a better balance in my life.

kellie rose wilson
kellie rose wilson
10/25/2013 5:16:30 PM #

I was overweight from 4th through 10th grades so I endured a lot of mean comments from my peers. Even though I lost the weight later in high school, I can never lose the mentality of what it is like to live in a body you are unhappy with. It's been years later and I still don't have very high self confidence because of the way I was treated as a pre-teen and teenager.

Terry Erickson
Terry Erickson
10/26/2013 10:34:34 AM #

I may get down occasionally and then I have to remind myself that it is progress and not perfection.  Keep on keeping on.

Misty R.
Misty R.
10/26/2013 11:22:28 PM #

I lost 16 lbs with Weight Watchers in hopes of getting pregnant.  Two months later, we were pregnant and beyond thrilled.  I knew I would gain weight during the pregnancy and I was fine with that.  After our hopes and dreams were crashed with a miscarriage at 8 weeks, I had to deal with the weight gain on top of everything else.  Then, I'm an emotional eater, so I continues to drown my sorrows with horrible food choices, gaining more weight.  I'm now trying to get control back with my food and exercises.  I need a boost to keep me motivated.  Thanks for the opportunity.

meredith
meredith
10/26/2013 11:47:12 PM #

I currently am a nursing student and over-weight. While teaching a hypertensive patient about the benefits of a low sodium (salt) diet he told me "why dont you take your own advice"..  i felt so discouraged! How can i help others, when i cant even help myself! since then i have been trying to become healthier, not skinny- but Healthy! I want to set an example for others so all my hard work to be the best nurse i can be wont go in vein due to my weight!

Meghan
Meghan
10/27/2013 12:06:02 AM #

I had just started running again after having my son, when I got plantar fascitis. I was so discouraged. But I found other ways, and eventually got to run again! I just ran 7 miles yesterday Smile

Hanna
Hanna
10/27/2013 12:37:44 PM #

I was actually slim all my life, until my second child was born.  The pregnancy did a lot of damage to my stomach muscles, and now I look 5 months pregnant all the time.  Years later, I am just now trying to reverse some of this through exercise.  I wish every poster here the best in reaching their goals!

Farah
Farah
10/28/2013 1:08:25 AM #

I am still the "fat friend". I have PCOS and can only drop very small amounts of weight because I have yet to figure out how to completely eat the way that my body needs me to eat and still provide for 3 young children and a husband.  Meals here are battles.  I get discouraged most days thanks to FB abd everyone assuming "Fat" people are lazy and make excuses.  Since all those doing that Shakeology/insanity Work out stuff use the No Excuses or What's your Excuse Slogan.  Keep on keeping on.  

valencia
valencia
10/28/2013 9:03:57 AM #

I have been the fat friend but never knew it.  My confidence level has been really high and friends have never made me feel uncomfortable.  I decided that it was time for me to get healthy and was tired of the limitations being overweight put on me.  I am taking this journey one day at a time.  With God as my guide the victory is mine!

Jennifer Hudy
Jennifer Hudy
10/28/2013 3:39:46 PM #

I haven't heard of this show at all.. seems interesting for sure.

I think my biggest discouragement lately was training for a half marathon. My family just didn't understand why I would want to achieve such a goal, and anytime I would hit a milestone for distance or speed, they just somewhat scoffed at the idea of me putting in such mileage.

Now that I have finished, they do realize it was an awesome accomplishment but it was not easy at first!

Cheryl
Cheryl
10/28/2013 5:39:23 PM #

I am just over a year into my weight loss journey.  I have lost 110 lbs.  I still have more weight to lose but I constantly have people telling me now that I am getting too skinny or that I need to stop.  This is so discouraging to me.  This is almost the same as when people would tell me that I had such a pretty face.   This was the almost 300 pound me.  That is just the equivalent of saying that the body is ugly.  I am striving to make myself healthy.  That is all.  I enjoy running now.  My body has definitely changed but I am not where I feel like I need to be.  I want to lower my body fat and tone up.   People should just stick to being positive.  

Barbara MuessigWarren
Barbara MuessigWarren
10/28/2013 5:53:41 PM #

I have worked really hard during this past year to improve my health and fitness. My goal was to complete my first half Marathon, and I did that on October 12 in Baltimore. However, it was especially hard because during the year I have also been fighting a constant kidney infection. I continue to fight that, and have had several procedures already, but I'm hoping I am finally reaching the end of that battle as well.

Mandy
Mandy
10/28/2013 5:57:21 PM #

Many of the messages I received growing up were unpleasant. I hardly ever felt loved and even less like I belonged. I have not always been overweight but I have had body image issues. When I became pregnant with our first child the pounds quickly packed on. I was told that I could not have children so I felt vary happy and blessed. Until a few days latter when I called my father to announce that we had our first child and a girl. His first grandchild/granddaughter.  Somehow my weight came up in this conversation and then he attacked further by asking me why I could not be more like my cousin who almost immediately lost her pregnancy weight. I was shocked and heart broken instead of focusing on the momentous occasion and the first grandchild his focus was on me, the weight I gained and had not lost. Sadly over the years and three more kids latter that was still my weight was something he still brought up every conversation. Even though I tried being assertive and told him how what he said was hurtful and felt judgmental. I also have a close friend that made snap judgments about my eating habits and who often made statements both publicly and privately about me being over weight. I have been working for years on my healing journey and work daily on becoming a better more improved version of me.

Jen
Jen
10/28/2013 5:59:18 PM #

I was a collegiate softball player and suffered a career ending injury. It didn't take long for me to become unfit and feel unhealthy. I found myself in a very dark place and could seem to get myself out of the hole I had dug myself into. I was searching and searching for motivation. I found it in the form of a triathlon registration. For the first time in years I had a reason to fight to be the best me I could be. I finished the triathlon and have never been more proud of myself. This year I will be racing for most improved time. But this year, I don't need the registration to motivate me, I am all the motivation I need for myself to be the best me and live the best life I can live.

Chelsea
Chelsea
10/28/2013 6:00:29 PM #

I had just gotten engaged, and was losing weight for my wedding. I had lost about 35lbs. and I had went to visit my parents. I was so proud of myself for getting as far as I had. I was unpacking my suitcase, and I overheard my father talking about how "huge and overweight" I had gotten. The words hurt, and it felt like a dagger to the heart. After the wedding I did gain the weight back  plus some, so last week I joined w.w. and I'm doing it for me. I'm going to make sure that I don't let other people's decision and actions influence me. My husband is so support and a rock, and I know I can do! I feel like I'm already winning my life back; as cheesy as that sounds! Smile

Nicole Meadows
Nicole Meadows
10/28/2013 6:01:17 PM #

I don't want to win for me so I'm goin 2 tell you about my mom. She really needs this.
My mom is the prettiest, sweetest woman I have ever met, but she is also the most stressed self hating (not really hating but really really hard on herself). My mom has never been a size 6 but she has always been beautiful & a determined person. A few years ago she decided she didn't like the way she looked so she started working out. She lost like 160 lbs which any1 else would feel amazed & proud of themselves, but she still feels it didn't help. She doesnt see the amazing change we do. Life has never been easy for us & my mom always blames herself for that & she eats (she is an emotional eater). She is an amazing mother but she lets everything thats going wrong get to her. We are currently all living with my cousin, which my mom thinks is her fault but there is no way it is & the past 3 years have really gotten in her way of losing the extra weight she wants 2. 3 years ago my grandpa (who is the man who basically raised her as her father died, then 3 months later my uncle billy (her uncle) died also. She struggled alot after that but then decided she wanted to try again, well she lost some weight & was doing good but then her mother passed away & we lost our house & she then gained some of that weight back (not that we could tell but she said she did).  She also has a back injury which keeps her from working out but she tries, she lets things she can't control & that aren't her fault really get 2 her. She needs this & so deserves it. She does so much for me, I think she would love this.

stacy orcutt
stacy orcutt
10/28/2013 6:09:44 PM #

everyday knowing i did this to myself i am so depressed because of it i am afraid of what i will do to chanfge

Barbara W
Barbara W
10/28/2013 6:16:47 PM #

Have worked really hard all year to improve my health and fitness. My goal was to complete my first half Marathon, and I did this on October 12 in Baltimore. However, this was especially hard because all year long I have been battling a kidney infection. After many scans and procedures, I am still fighting this, but I am going to win!

Heather Christopher
Heather Christopher
10/28/2013 6:24:26 PM #

I have felt discouraged when after losing a few pounds and seeing great improvements in my running and cycling only to eventually lose sight of my long term goals and slip back into old habits and end up losing some of the fitness I had gained. But  I know setbacks happen and  I'm back on task once again,  I'm actually getting out on my bike for my second workout of the day.

kelly f
kelly f
10/28/2013 7:15:34 PM #

i feel discouraged almost on a daily basis when i come home from work, exhausted. sometimes i nap, sometimes i binge, sometimes i run. i feel better with the run and the nap, not sure why i binge sometimes.

ReeceMc
ReeceMc
10/28/2013 7:19:21 PM #

Most recently (within the last year) since I stopped nursing my second child I have fluctuated up and down. Birth control made it worse and to top it off I was having some serious adverse reactions to the different kinds I was taking. I felt like "blah" for well over a year and finally decided to stop hormonal birth control and try to take my body back. Since the we have moved halfway across the country, lived in a hotel for a few weeks, and now have a broken jogging stroller. To say I've been discouraged is a complete understatement. I feel like I have no control over anything and still trying to find a job in our new home. I am an emotional eater and all of this craziness has me at my limit! (Good news is- we almost never buy junk food, so it's never in the house!) Smile time to start being an emotional runner and get outta this funk!

Trish
Trish
10/28/2013 7:40:25 PM #

I had been running for a while and no longer considered myself a beginner and I was a long way from a couch potato.  One day I was out for a run in my small town and a woman I had never seen before came running towards me from the opposite direction.  She said "good job, keep it up, I'm proud of you".  I know that was awesome and inspirational, but it made me feel like I hadn't made any progress and that the previous months of running were not showing. I was very discouraged by this incident and wondered whether I would ever see any changes... would it ever be worth it?

Lisa
Lisa
10/28/2013 7:44:44 PM #

I feel discourage when I have school and when my parents don't understand why I work out.

Maribel Bylund
Maribel Bylund
10/28/2013 8:14:51 PM #

I would really really love to win this.  It's been a long road for me, almost 10 years in the making and I am still taking one stride at a time.  I have met a lot of people who have encouraged and supported my path.   However, I have face the few made it close to impossible.  As my path to a healthier me has solidified I am able to choose between the good and the bad feedback.  My one and toughest discouragement was dealing with extra skin from a size 18 body.  But still I move on and with this prize I can continue on that healthy path, one foot in front of the other, one leap at a time!

Jonna Noe
Jonna Noe
10/28/2013 8:29:50 PM #

Oh my goodness.. as my husband fries potatoes.. and I am typing this... I would love to win this. I have about 15 lbs to go but have struggled on a plateau and can't quite figure out how to make it move!!! I just have a very hard time finding time with kids and a full time job. I would love this as encouragement to get me moving on the right path and finally hit my goal to being healthier loving how I look now that I just turned 40 and many people are telling me that it just gets harder! WHEW. that was a long sentence.

Genna
Genna
10/28/2013 9:06:01 PM #

SOmetimes I feel defeated when I teach.  Its so hard to get to everyone in such a small amount of time.  Sometimes I wish I could talk one on one with everyone

Kathy Wilson
Kathy Wilson
10/28/2013 9:44:17 PM #

I am down 47 ibs with 80 more to go, feeling discouraged right now because the scales are not moving.  I know I can break this plateau, but looking for motivation

Kristi McGregor
Kristi McGregor
10/28/2013 10:07:26 PM #

I feel discouraged at times because of how hard it is to balance family, work, home responsibilities and working out. Some days it's hard to fit it all in. I know it's worth it though. Thanks for an awesome giveway!

Kammie @ Sensual Appeal
Kammie @ Sensual Appeal
10/28/2013 10:32:14 PM #

I remember the time I felt discouraged when I feel like I'm eating super well and working out but the clothes fit the same and the scale wouldn't budge. Now I don't focus on the numbers but rather on how I feel!

Robbie Rosati
Robbie Rosati
10/28/2013 10:33:46 PM #

I am a proud mom of 4 wonderful kids (9 year old twins, a 5 year old and a 3 year old). I have struggled with my weight since having the twins. I did my first 10k and while training for it, I lost 25 lbs! Unfortunately, summer was busy, school starting and all of the chaos has me off the wagon. I have gained some of the weight back and feel very self conscious (even more then normal), uncomfortable in my own skin and overall feeling very discouraged. I refuse to do nothing! Despite me being sick, I got up and hit the pavement tonight to start my Couch to 10k program again! It was pretty rough but I am thankful that in my pain and temptation to quit, I called my mom and she cheered on and didn't let me give in! Thankfully I did it!!!! An to top it off, I had one of my fastest miles (mile 1 of my run) tonight!
I would LOVE to have a fitbit/polar to help with my tracking! Unfortunately, I don't really have it in the budget to spend on me when I have 4 little ones to think about! One day, hopefully it will come! Smile
Thank you for your story and inspiration! It's helpful to not feel alone, especially someone who has conquered a mountain! Smile
Also thanks for the opportunity for these giveaways!

Jen Abreut
Jen Abreut
10/28/2013 10:37:27 PM #

I am always discouraged with my mom's weightloss journey.  She is constantly going up and down on the scale...I wish there was something I could do to help her.  Her food addiction is connected to her happiness.  She eats when she is sad, bored, lonely, celebrating and so on.  The best she has ever looked and felt about herself was when she was working out with me and she keeps shying away from it.  I am happy to say she is joining me again next week!!!  

stephanie newlin
stephanie newlin
10/28/2013 11:01:31 PM #

I had lots of reasons to be discouraged!  After years of infertility treatments and over 10 miscarriages, gaining almost 75 pounds, a couch-potato husband, and a diagnoses of diabetes after my one successful pregnancy, I decided I didn't want to live the rest of my life overweight and sick.  I began running and eating healthy and soon the pounds began to melt away.  During this process, my now ex-husband continuously tried to sabotage my efforts and I lost many friends to jealousy.  However, I never gave up on myself and my goals!  I lost 80 pounds and am now diabetes-free!  No medicines....just clean eating and an active, healthy lifestyle and I can look forward to many healthy years with my two sons!  

Cassandra Molina
Cassandra Molina
10/29/2013 1:32:16 PM #

I was the fat friend for a long time. Frown now 5 kids later I'm the fit friend who is in love with crossfit and showing my kids how to live a healthy life. My girls are chunky and hopefully I'm teaching them to embrace their body and no that themselves the way I did.

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