Vlog-Why do you believe you need to weigh a certain weight??

The scale is only a tool. It can not tell you:

  • how fast you can run
  • how many inches you lost
  • how you PR'd a deadlift
  • how much your kids/family love you

Why do you believe you need to weigh a certain weight? I saw a Facebook comment from a friend recently. She posted saying she had accomplished her goal to fit into a certain pair of jeans, but still needed to lose ten pounds to make her weight loss goal.  What?  Why?

Why does she think she needs to weigh a certain amount?  If her waist is the size she wants it to be, then why go further?  I understand if she is still not happy with her body after she reached that goal of fitting into her pants, but she made it sound like she was happy with that.

We are made to believe we should weigh a certain amount, and if we get above that weight we are unhealthy or overweight.  We have been categorized into averages – women who are X feet tall should be roughly Y pounds.  Says who?!

Have you heard of the body mass index, or BMI?  Your BMI is based on your weight and height and doctors will tell you if you are above a certain BMI you are at risk for certain health issues.

While this is somewhat true if you are quite heavy, is it that true if we weight X amount then we are fat, and if we weigh less than X amount then we are lean and healthy?

 Absolutely not!! There are many skinny people who are unhealthy.

Do you think super skinny models are healthy?  How about bodybuilders during their competitions?  They are both lean, but most are not healthy.

Of course, being too overweight does have health consequences.  I do not want to make it sound like it is okay to gain a bunch of unnecessary weight.  All I am trying to get across is that once you are in a fairly healthy weight range, a number should not determine your happiness with your body.


Why do YOU believe you need to weigh a certain weight?

Push Away the Screen: Biltmore Bonding on Bikes

This is part three of a three part series. You can read part 1 here, and part 2 here.


During our hike throughout the Biltmore Estate we saw miles and miles of bike paths. James and I were so excited to get out there and cycle, but we were nervous about the kids. Why? Hills. Living in Florida we don't cycle over any hills. And some of these hills were saw on the Biltmore Estate were actually more like mountains and I was scared of the kids going down those!! We've done overpasses here in the Sunshine State and they do okay with those, but it's been a while since we've done one, and Ronin has been stopping his bike with his feet (like Fred Flintstone) and not his brakes, so I was sort of freaking out about his careening down a mountainside on his bike!

The Biltmore Estate offers a TON of outdoor activities. From bike riding, to horseback riding, to kayaking, to skeet shooting, and fly fishing, there is something for everyone!! Because of the odd number of people in our family, and the age of our children, we were limited to only biking, which really is fine with us, because that's all we really wanted to do!

We arrived at the "bike barn" and checked in . I had made a reservation, so they were expecting us. The staff was excellent, making sure that each of us was properly fitted on our bikes, that our helmets were nice and secure, and they had each of the kids take a test lap through the barn to demonstrate that they knew how to brake properly and mount/dismount the bike. Ronin did a great job with his hand brake.

Ella was SO EXCITED to be able to choose a bike with GEARS!! She has been wanting a "gear bike" for quite a while and we thought this would be a good opportunity for her to try it out! Haley refused to give it a try, and stuck with a simple bike.

It took her a few tries to get it just right, and they had to adjust the seat a few times as well, but soon we were ready!

They also gave us step by step directions where we should cycle to avoid getting in to terrain that would be too challenging for the children, and gave us a hand map as well! We brought our own water (they let me know in advance we'd need this!!) and off we went! We were instructed to stay on the green marked path, though we thought we might be able to handle some of the light blue path as well, and would take it on a trail by trail basis! We had 2 hours to explore, so off we went!!

I quickly went to the head of the pack, and watched as James and the trio made their way to me. Why did I go so far up ahead?? Why, to test the terrain of course! I wanted to make sure that there was nothing too challenging or dangerous for my gang, James included! He was riding a bike that he wasn't familiar with and despite my recommendation that he chose a DIFFERENT bike, he didn't listen to me. More on that later Tongue Out


Ella was having a grand ole' time changing out her gears!

There were a couple of tricky spots, not with terrain but with having to cross the road! So I'm glad I went first!! Typically when we ride as a family, we are on designated "NO CAR" bike paths, we don't have to cross roads, we just bike. On this path, we had to cross the main Biltmore Estate road, and traffic was quite busy because they were having a motorcycle festival on property, and the bikes were driving pretty fast, and in large packs. Thankfully I was able to get to the stop sign first, get in to the road, and pretty much stop traffic to allow my gang to pass. Then we were back on the paved bike trail and off exploring the property!

As we crossed over this bridge, we came across a bunch of geese just cruising along!! We had 2 loaves of bread back in our room that we knew we weren't going to eat, so we had a discussion about going back to our room after we returned the bikes, picking up the bread and heading back down to feed the ducks! The kids were excited about that. Off we went again on our ride!!

We made it to the end of the green trail really quickly! The blue trail took us right in front of the motorcycle camp, so we decided to head back and see what we could find the other direction!

But first we stopped at the geese again for a water break!

James and I even managed to talk one of the kids in to taking our picture together!

It was at this stop that James mentioned how uncomfortable he was on his bike. Really?? Really?? After I told you to pick something else?? This is where I did my "I told you so, honey" talk. We knew we'd be passing close to the bike barn again, so he decided at that point that he would go and trade his bike in for the one I recommended. This made him very happy.

We took a different path towards the bike barn, and came across the Biltmore Farm! The kids and I stayed here while James rode up to change in his bike.

The kids were in love with this cute little donkey. We was very friendly and just stayed at the gate and let the trio pet him!

James came back quickly and off we went!! We decided to head "off-road" since we all had "fat tire" bikes.


I let the family get in front of me, and then they all slowed down, so I took the lead again, and off I went. I was just pedaling along  dodging big rocks, and  low limbs, when suddenly I realized that it was VERY quite. I slowed down, dismounted my bike and realized that NO ONE was with me. Oops. I went to fast and left them all behind. I back-tracked found James and the kids, and the kids were all upset and crying Undecided the off-road path was too hard for them. Their little legs just weren't strong enough to pedal through the rough terrain. Poor guys. I felt so bad for going so far ahead, and I felt a little guilty because I was having so much fun while they were crying. Bad mama. Oops. Tears turned to smiles though as James and I reminded them that we were going to feed the geese after our ride!!

Our 2 hours was nearly up, so we decided to head back to the bike barn! Our return trip took us up a very steep hill. So steep that I had to get off my bike and walk up. The kids walked their bikes up, too. But James...not James! He made it up on his bike! GO JAMES!!

We had a great time biking at Biltmore and I really hope that we can go back one day when the kids are older and do more mountain biking because that was a lot of fun for the short time I got to experience it! I made Ella pose with me for a "bike ride over" photo. She was not amused.

Next up! Geese!!

We went back to our room, grabbed the bread and headed back to the lake. We drove our car since it was getting near twilight and I didn't want to be walking around in an unknown place in the dark. We called the geese over, and some started to come as did some cute little ducks.

But it didn't take long for the whole gang of geese to make their way over to the food!

2 loaves of bread went quickly!


The kids loved feeding the geese!! It was cute to watch and there were some goslings (too bad no Ryan!!) in the mix too and the trio kept trying to make sure that they were getting their bread pieces close to those cute babes!

When our bread was out, the geese wanted more and came up on land to see what else we could offer!!

We got in to our truck to head back to the Inn. We had to drive out and back to get to the main road and by the time we got there, this was waiting for us!

Hundreds of geese were foraging on both sides of the road!! I have never seen so many geese in one spot, at one time before!! It was pretty cool!

Overall, our 2 full days at the Biltmore was AMAZING!! We created some great family memories, and it certainly gave me the taste for some more family adventures!! I can't wait to go back when the kids are older and perhaps really bike those amazing mountain trails. I'll have to be sure to work on some hills climbs so I don't have to walk my bike!


What's the best family vacation you've taken with your kids?? Do you take active vacations, or do you go to try to relax?

Break a habit, make a habit

It's often been said that it takes 21 days to make a new habit stick. I do a pretty good job of making new habits stick,  but HowStuffWorks reminded me that old habits are hard to break.

Breaking a habit is a lot more complicated, because while parts of those worn-in pathways can weaken without use, they never go away [source: Rae-Dupree]. They can be reactivated with the slightest provocation [source: Delude]. If you've ever tried to quit smoking, you already know this. You can go a year without a cigarette, and then give in one time and BAM, the habit comes right back. (just like overeating.)

How can you break a bad habit and make a new one??

  • Take small steps. Don't try to do everything at once. (So, instead of "I'm going to exercise every day," start with "I'm going to exercise twice a week.")
  • Only try to change one habit at a time. (Instead of "I'm going to quit eating junk food, start exercising, and go to sleep at 10 p.m. instead of 2 a.m.," start with "I'm going to quit eating junk food.")
  • Write down the habit you want to change, and write down specific plans for achieving that goal. (Rather than writing "I will exercise," write, "I will start walking 30 minutes twice a week, on Monday and Thursday, and I will wake up at 7 a.m., so I can walk before work on those days.")
  • Repeat the behavior you're aiming for as often as you can. The more a behavior is repeated, the more likely it is that it will become "instinctive."

Following these steps have worked for me in the past, and I need to use them again to break a bad habit. And that is snacking at night. I've gotten very complacent about my nighttime snacking and I need to reign it in! I'm eating too many nuts; Walnuts, and almonds. Or apple slices with almond butter. All items which are fine, but I'm having issues with portion control, and I'm eating too much. In the past I would have a cup or three of hot tea, but I got out of that habit and have been snacking at my computer or in front of the TV, instead.

My 21 day "break a habit, make a habit" is to: stop snacking after 8pm and drink hot tea. I love hot tea. I have a lot of different types of tea. I don't know why I stopped, but I need to get back to it. I'm hoping that just by drinking tea my urge to snack will decrease naturally. If not, I'm going to have to work hard on keeping that ugly monster under control.

To help keep me on track I've created a visual anchor!

At the end of every successful day I will remove a number. It will help to remind me that I can do this. I don't need the nuts. I won't die if I don't eat the nuts. I also didn't buy any tempting foods this week. Zilch, nada, none. When I have to pack lunch for the kids I bring bagged lunch items in to the house; Granola bars and cheese sticks have been ending up in my nighttime snack routine, too. Which again, IN MODERATION is fine, but that's where I have always had a problem: MODERATION. So I have to cut the food out all-together, which means I can't have it near me at all so the kids end up "going clean" as well. And by the time I've instilled the good habit, (cause really, if you read the article, it takes another 21 day cycle to cement the good habits) school will be ready to start and when I bring those bagged items back in to the house, I'll be under control. The school year typically does not present an issue. It's summer. My routine gets thrown all out of whack.

I recently read this blog post by 300 Pounds Down and it really resonated with me. I especially like the tip about setting a timer.


What's one bad habit you'd like to break, and one bad habit you'd like to make??

Does the summer wreck havoc on your normal routine?