Tap in to the LIGHT side of the Force. This side is aligned with honesty, compassion, mercy, self-sacrifice, and other positive emotions. We should all strive to spend as much time here as we can.
The Dark side is where too many people live. This side is full of anger, fear, aggression. It can quickly consume you. It will forever dominate your destiny, consume you. The dark side is quicker, easier, more seductive.
1. Admit you’re not perfect, but be positive. I’ll be the first to say it: I’m far from perfect. I’m a jerk sometimes. I’m inconsiderate and selfish sometimes. And I don’t usually realize it until later. If you think you’re not a jerk, at least admit that you are inconsiderate at times. Try to recall those times. Think of how you could have acted differently. This is the first step, and it’s an important one.
2. Place yourself in the shoes of others, but be humble This is the key to consideration — to consider the feelings and needs and wants of others, to see things from their perspective. Try to think of what others are going through, what you’d want if you were in their situation. This isn’t always easy, but it gets easier with practice. And even if you’re not correct in your assumptions about what another person wants or feels or is going through … the important thing is that you’re making the effort.
3. Act with compassion and kindness. If someone else is suffering, even a little, try to ease their suffering in some way. Treat others with kindness, respect, love. Do it in little ways — a smile, a kind word, a thank you, a hug, doing something to ease their burden, going out of your way to be courteous, holding open a door, letting another person in front of you in traffic. Little tiny acts will make a huge difference.
4. Practice, practice, practice. Old habits die hard, especially ones like this where we rarely think about it. Keep it in the forefront of your consciousness by making every interaction with another person a chance to practice being considerate. Every time you talk to someone, email someone, tweet someone, or see someone on the street … make this an opportunity to practice consideration. Practice, and practice some more. That’s the only way you get good at anything.
5. Do 5 little things. As a way to practice, make it a goal to do 5 little things each day that are kind and considerate. It doesn’t matter what those things are — cooking something for a family member, pick up your husband's socks, sending a nice thank-you email to your aunts, lending a hand to a neighbor, or hold the door for someone. You can also be nice to the community and the world by volunteering. I’m sure you could think of a thousand little things. Do this every day, and you’ll soon be a pro.